Grieving parents and pastor of transgender teenage boy honor his authenticity


Pastor R.G. Wilson Lyons addressed this as he honored their son’s identity in his eulogy at First United Methodist Church.

We are all grieving the loss of Jay, but I also know that in addition to the pain and grief, some of you are also confused. We recognize that many of you may have questions because Jay was born with biologically female characteristics and many of you knew Jay as Jane Marie. Jay, along with nearly 1.5 million Americans, about .6 percent of the population, was transgendered, meaning the he identified as a male even though he was born with female characteristics. We recognize that this probably raises many questions for some of you and we want to let you know that pastors of this church… as well as myself would be glad to meet with you at another time and try to answer your questions. But today is about honoring the memory of Jay and praising God who has overcome death and pain, so we will identify Jay as he identified himself as proclaim God’s love and grace upon Jay in his life and now in his death.

Christian news media apparently did not get the message. Articles in the Christian Post and other right-wing conservative Christian sites misgendered Griffin in their reporting and focused on his mental health struggles. They also cited debunked claims by the bogus anti-LGBTQ advocacy group, the American College of Pediatrics, sending a message to parents that Matt and Erin Georgia, both proud veterans, had made a mistake in supporting their child’s transition.

“It was still the first year and a half. It was fresh,” Georgia told about her son’s transition. “He still hadn’t come out to the world. We were still in the baby stages. I mourned the loss of a daughter but then I realized that I’d been praying for a son my whole life,” Georgia said. “God answered that prayer, in just a different way.”

When Griffin came out to his parents, or as Georgia put it, “discovered that Jay was Jay,” she said “there was a transition from long hair, and he started dressing differently but there was never a big ‘aha moment’ for us.”

Or for him, she said.

“That was a personal thing I never bugged him about. I was concerned about loving and accepting and trying understand his perspective. We’ve always just loved and accepted our children for whoever they are,” she said. “I’m a very outspoken, tattooed Christian, very strong in my faith. We were just encouraging Jay. I would notice things as a mother and was like, ‘Hey, anything you want to talk to me about, I’m here.”’

In his obituary, Griffin’s parents called him an advocate. “Between publicly educating friends and family on proper pronoun use, and privately struggling with being called by his birth name and gender, Jay continued searching for the ever-elusive balance of social acceptance and personal validation.”

“We need to promote education of diversity,” Georgia said. “Not just for the children, because the children get it. We need to reach out to parents.”

If you are a trans or gender-nonconforming person considering suicide, Trans Lifeline can be reached at 877-565-8860. LGBT youth (ages 24 and younger) can reach the Trevor Project Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 can also be reached 24 hours a day by people of all ages and identities.

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