Twins who transitioned together are telling their story to help others.
Jace and Jack Grafe, 23, are inseparable twins from Georgia who do everything together. They have the same friends, the same interests, and they are both working as corrections officers.
They even started hormone therapy at the same time.
But it wasn’t until Jace and Jack were 14 that they had even heard the word “transgender.” Both were assigned female at birth but knew that they were boys.
“It’s like being in prison except it’s in your own body,” Jack told Fox 5. “And the older I got, the harder it was to swallow. And I was like, can’t do this for the rest of my life, I just can’t do it.”
Still, they were from small-town Georgia and they attended a Christian school. It took time for them to even share their feelings with one another.
“Fear is like the biggest thing to keep you away from anything,” Jack said. “That’s what kept me in my box.”
They kept on presenting as female until they finished high school, but when they were done they started exploring their options to live authentically.
“As soon as I got out of that, I cut my hair, I changed my clothes.”
When they were 21, they started hormone therapy within one week of each other.
Jace said that if it weren’t for his brother, he would have had a harder time accepting himself.
“I feel like we’ve saved each other from a lot of really dark and depressing moments,” he said.
“Sometimes, I wonder if he wasn’t here, if I would have been by myself, if I would have had suicidal thoughts. I’m not saying I would have, but it’s very possible. I would have been most definitely alone.”
Today, they’re each in a relationship and their driver’s licenses have male gender markers.
“It’s real now, it’s official,” Jack said.
“It’s perfect to me, I’m finally perfect to me,” Jace said. “I’m just excited to finally go out there and be exactly what I’ve been dreaming about for a long time.”