Gay trio’s polyamorous relationship lasts four decades

Gay trio’s polyamorous relationship lasts four decades
Bob Lanning
Bob Lanning

The idea of a polyamorous relationship is probably shocking to a lot of people, but for Bob Lanning and his partner Don, who was often away for his job as an airline pilot, it was just the right thing to do:

In 1971, when I was managing a bar in San Diego, Keith came in — his ship was stationed down there — and he came in in uniform, and when I saw him walk through that door in his Dixie cup and white uniform, I said, “Oh, my god, I’m having that sailor.” … I asked Keith if he would be willing to try a threesome, and when Keith said yes, he would be willing, then we went to Don, and the three of us sat down and discussed if this might be a possibility, and Don said yes as well….

The three were able to live happily together for many years, each filling a different role within the home

The relationship came to an end when Don was diagnosed with and eventually died from cancer, leaving Bob and Keith behind. Bob and Keith have continued their relationship since Don’s passing and now live together as a married couple:

This is their true LGBTQ story:

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