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Gay country singer’s video portrays gay men as sad, predatory drunks

Monday, July 8, 2013

Gay men drink too much, feel sorry for themselves, and come on to straight dudes when their girlfriends aren’t around: that’s the message from the music video of newly-minted gay country singer Steve Grand.

And gay media is too busy fawning over the young stud to notice.

Steve Grand

Maybe Grand figures that his fellow gays will be too distracted by the video’s lascivious preoccupation with his pouty lips and sculpted abs to notice that, as portrayed here, he is one false move away from some serious gay bashing.

The storyline has Grand continually offering his straight friend – out of sight from the guy’s girlfriend – his flask of whiskey, and once they are both drunk enough to do some skinny dipping, Grand goes in for a kiss. The object of his affections looks stunned before swimming away.

Let’s credit the straight friend in the video for being a good sport about the come-on, and even showing reconciliation when the two see each other again.

As a matter of fact, the straight dude appears to inhabit a modern world that our gay country idol hasn’t heard about, where potential gay boyfriends are everywhere, from two-stepping saloons to the town church, and hotties like Grand never have to resort to stalking the straight boys.

[Grand's video is here and here.]

It’s not as if Grand isn’t entitled to have a fantasy boyfriend who happens to be straight – who hasn’t? – but if the singer really wants to challenge stereotypes, why the hell is he portraying gay men as sad, predatory drunks? Why not just record his song over four minutes of the self loathing 1970′s film “The Boys in the Band?”

Grand said in a Facebook post that he is “laying it out there. I’m done playing it safe.”

Well, aside from the fact that gay men are routinely beaten for the kind of actions Grand takes in his video, perhaps he might consider focusing his risk-taking on something truly perilous: the gay dating pool.

You know, with actual gay men.

That’s a shark tank that takes real survival skills.

© Mark S. King.
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  1. ive not seen the video but as a gay man i know many gays who are not sad predatory drunks

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:12pm
  2. Who?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:12pm
  3. Every country song is about drinking too much and feeling sorry for yourself.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:13pm
  4. totally disagree…

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:13pm
  5. Not to be too flippant about it, but minus the gay part, isn’t that about any country song?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:13pm
  6. What? If the shoe fits, wear it! There is indeed an extremely high percentage of alcoholism and drug addiction in the Gay community. Let’s keep it real Mark! Furthermore, the so called “straight man” in the video is an alleged gay porno star, no fowl over that Mark?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:13pm
  7. I think the author is reading into this song way too much.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:14pm
  8. really? how ridiculous.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:15pm
  9. How everyone in that video is drinking they went skinny dipping and he kissed a guy he had a crush on I’m gay an I loved the video so shut the fuck up Mark S. King ur retarted and have no idea what your talking about its a beautiful video with a sad ending

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:15pm
  10. Well Smell Her!!! Like Mark was never a young person trying to figure out who he was. It doen’t help for us to tear each other apart. Seriously It doen’t matter if it’s true or not, people on the other side try to make out like it is. I think that personally it is refreashing to see someone be this honest.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:16pm
  11. Many gay men identify with the story presented in his video. Unrequited love is often a hallmark of growing up homosexual surrounded by heterosexual male majorities. The drinking issue can be found in many genres of music. Also as someone growing up and living within a rural small town gay hangouts are not that common. Especially in very conservative parts of America like say the South in general. The authors entire opinion piece sounds more like a bitter critique of a hack writer.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:16pm
  12. I’m not entirely sure that a gay artist’s work has to pass a political correctness litmus test. Aren’t we past the days when anyone gay who rose even a bit into the public eye was instantly interpreted as emblematic of the entire “community?” This is Steve Grand’s song – Drake Jensen’s are different. Find another way to be interesting, Mr. King.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:16pm
  13. that just means we need MORE gay country songs (by guys) to portray a variety of experiences. i suppose Chely Wright and k.d.lang (& Indigo Girls?) have already made a great variety of country songs from the lesbian side of life, but there is always room for more.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:17pm
  14. What an over-analytic whiner! The video is fun. Kings criticisms are nothing more than personal projection and manufactured controversy.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:17pm
  15. Kevin Hubbard… -.-

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:17pm
  16. I gently have to disagree here …..this is why. At first glance of this video I too thought the same thing……then I realized after watching the response of my husband ( a man who is not a sad predatory man..nor was he….) and many friends both in real time and online, I saw…that it wasn’t my story………… YET it was the story of many of us. Many, have fallen in love with men they cannot have. Like all country music…it is laced with the touchstones of small town / rural life which does include drinking…dancing when drunk, flirting…falling in love with someone you can

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:17pm
  17. t have…..

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:17pm
  18. Exactly

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:18pm
  19. How many country artists sing about drinking whiskey, or any other alcohol for that matter? And how many country songs are so horribly depressing that they’d drive you to drinking in the first place. People look for any ammo they can find to promote their hatred.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:18pm
  20. That was exactly what I thought.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:19pm
  21. Idk if I completely agree with this oped. Why does everything have to be put in the context of what is and isn’t good PR for the gay community. Sometimes friends get confused about one another feelings for each other. The plot line isn’t completely unrealistic. And if you want to call out things that portray gay men in a bad light, you can make a very long list, from Queer as Folk to Queer Eye for the Straight guy. I get the point for the oped but in prospective, it shouldn’t be made too big of a fuss over.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:19pm
  22. THEY DO. Where has this guy been?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:19pm
  23. Sorry to say, but some gay men do feel sorry for themselves, drink too much, and come on to straight dudes when their girlfriends aren’t around. The same way that some straight women do that, and straight men do that.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:19pm
  24. I don’t like stereo types BUT let him alone people. He is an artist. He’s not spreading any hatred so he can sing about what he wants.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:19pm
  25. Not TRUE

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:21pm
  26. I have been bothered by this portrayal. So glad someone else can get past him being the “First” and actually see the negative video.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:21pm
  27. I love the sensationalized title. But the video and song doesn’t portray gay men as sad predatory drunks. He fell in love, or had a crush on, with the wrong guy, a straight guy. It’s alluring because we as gay men are attracted to other men, and just because their preference doesn’t fit ours doesn’t mean we won’t still have the feelings. The guy was totally fine after the kiss and it looks like at the bonfire he said “no man it’s ok, it happens”.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:22pm
  28. I can’t believe LGBTQ Nation wrote and published this. You guys should know better.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:22pm
  29. It is way more complicated than how you broke it down. He is signing about a n experience he has had, which lots of singers do. I dont think that he portrays a drunk predatory gay…he portrays a man who is in love with another man and alcohol allows him to be truer with his feelings for him…doesnt mean he roofied the guy…now thats predatory

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:22pm
  30. Huh what? Gay means happy. Gay guys usually seem happy. That’s the stereotype. Sad and drinking is the country music stereotype.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:22pm
  31. LGBTQ Nation posted an article about Steve Grand where he states that the song is about a specific event that happened to him. I doubt he was making some kind of universal statement, seems like he just wanted to get his feelings out about that in song. Said article is here: http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2013/07/all-american-boy-gay-themed-music-video-a-youtube-hit/

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:22pm
  32. This op-ed piece is very well-stated!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:23pm
  33. So a gay country singer’s video shows that gay country singers are exactly the same as straight country singers?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:24pm
  34. No, it doesn’t. Some people’s perception does that. It’s one story about one gay man, who has limited access to men he wants to be with. It’s about passion for a friend that turned romantic. I know that feeling, growing up in the country like I did.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:24pm
  35. seriously…like straight guys aren’t predatory and fuck any women who will let them? lets put their morals under a microscope

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:24pm
  36. And contrary to what Mr. King wrote, there aren’t any in the video either.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:25pm
  37. We actually agree. lol

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:25pm
  38. My thoughts exactly!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:28pm
  39. It’s his opinion. He’s entitled to it. It’s the wrong opinion, but he’s got the right to voice it.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:28pm
  40. sure it had all the elements of the drinking and such. but i did not look at him as feeling sorry for himself. what i saw was a handsome young men enjoying each others company and one of them realized he’s attracted to the other. he was not dismissed in any way. sure his feelings were hurt a little but the other guy did give him a hug and a peck on the cheek towards the end or maybe whispered something in his ear. but if you look at it carefully the guy was no way disgusted at all. people just face it the times and the world has changed. and if you don’t like it “WELL TO DAMM BAD” THAT’S THE WAY IT IS NOWADAYS.”; you either accept it or you don’t, because i’m sue many of us have a family member who is gay,lesbian,trans or whatever. hell for all we know much of you are in the damm closet but are to ashamed to just be yourself . LIFE GOES ON NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE THINKS. JUST SAYING. ENJOY YOUR LIFE Y’ALL

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:29pm
  41. Sometimes, all the judgement from within our own community is exhausting. No one in the LGBT community has ever pined over a straight friend? I guess the author was never a teenager trying to find who they are. I feel the video portrays a heartbreaking truth that many people, straight or LGBT, deal with at some point; the one unattainable person. Also, straight people don’t get drunk and do stupid things? Come on, man.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:29pm
  42. I’m sure we agree more often than that. lol <3

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:29pm
  43. It’s about unrequited love. Love that is not returned. Doesn’t matter, gay or straight, this song can be felt by any person.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:30pm
  44. Ok ive seen this video, and as a openly gay man myself, i did find it a lil disrespectful to the LGBT community. Not all gay men wanna be with a straight man. However there are a few out there who do. Im NOT one of them. I understand the meaning behind the video and all that, just a lil unsettled by the “gay man falling in love with a straight man” thing. It does paint a dark picture for us (LGBT community). But other than the video, i think this guy is wonderful, for being proud of who he is and sharing his story with us.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:31pm
  45. predatory…seriously? It’s just garden-variety unrequited love, and the object of his affections, while not interested and kinda freaked out, offers a classy way to deal say “Hey, we’re still okay!”. Musically not my cup of tea but it’s a sensitive portrayal and models accepting behavior. Where you get the “Boys in the Band” comparison is a complete mysetery to me.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:32pm
  46. I watched the video a few days ago before this came out. Sometimes I think we get to sensitive about things. I did not see this video as a projection of all gay men, but the struggle of one man. I’m going to guess that this scenario isn’t far off the mark for many country types who do not have a downtown gay bar to go to. I also did not see him as any more of a drinker than the rest of the people in the video. I think this OP-ED goes a bit too far. We don’t pass judgment of all straight men when you see a similar video but with a straight singer, we shouldn’t pass judgment just because it’s a gay man.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:33pm
  47. It’s a great video!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:33pm
  48. he seems like a puppet.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:34pm
  49. you are pretty much right!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:35pm
  50. Really? Hate from a group taht want to sell us something?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:36pm
  51. For me I saw mixed signals from the straight guy. Add drink and a skinny dip and I would have gone the same way. I’ve had friends throw out the same kind of signals, then when I try to make a move I get rebuffed, “Hey man I’m straight”. When you are young it is hard to read people.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:38pm
  52. I hate to break it to this man but THAT is not the case with ALL gay men. Many of us are actually in healthy happy relationships.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:38pm
  53. It wouldn’t be any different if he was straight and wanted his best friends girl! but nobody would care or have a problem with that. But he’s gay so naturally ppl overreact.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:38pm
  54. It wouldn´t be any different if he was straight and wanted his best friends girl! but nobody would care or have a problem with that. But he´s gay so naturally ppl overreact.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:38pm
  55. With Respect, I have to disagree… I thought it showed a young man accepting his love of another man for the first time and trying to handle it within the confines of the society around him. The fact that his crush showed respect and friendship after the mistake is a fine example of what a true friend really is.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:39pm
  56. not a way to build on a relationship with the gay community

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:39pm
  57. now they throw drinking into the mix when everyone I know only listen to country music when they are drinking.. I am glad he has a great song and video.. What he is trying to portait here is gay guys are not as common as straight ppl… So he fell for a guy with a girl a big whoopidy doo.. So does every other song.. lay off the damn gay ALREADY!!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:39pm
  58. NO, IT DOESN’T…!!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:39pm
  59. NO, IT DOESN´T…!!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:39pm
  60. it’s all a marketing ploy anyway.. the music industry needs gimmicks to sell music

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:40pm
  61. it´s all a marketing ploy anyway.. the music industry needs gimmicks to sell music

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:40pm
  62. I love the video, cute!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:40pm
  63. But there’s nothing said about the straight people getting drunk and going off into the woods to boink. This opinion article is what happens when someone only looks at something to find the negative.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:40pm
  64. But there´s nothing said about the straight people getting drunk and going off into the woods to boink. This opinion article is what happens when someone only looks at something to find the negative.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:40pm
  65. Am i the only one who read this headline and went, ‘WHOA! We totally are!!!!”

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:43pm
  66. Am i the only one who read this headline and went, ´WHOA! We totally are!!!!”

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:43pm
  67. Ow, you’re so lucky, man! (. . .)

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:44pm
  68. And oh! Let the man tell his story, just because he love man and not girl why get all crazy stupid. Gays exist, and they can be country too. Love it when “all the all-country-strong” get rattled. Just relax and enjoy your women, there are many.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:44pm
  69. Men can be sad, predatory drunks. Gays included.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:44pm
  70. That’s good. He’s portraying gay men in country music the same way straight men are portrayed in country music.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:45pm
  71. That´s good. He´s portraying gay men in country music the same way straight men are portrayed in country music.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:45pm
  72. Well, that’s what a lot of straight music videos are then too.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:46pm
  73. Well, that´s what a lot of straight music videos are then too.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:46pm
  74. Love the video and the story line . Been there done that ! Drunk too much and made a pass at the wrong guy ! Why make a big thing of it ? Shows what a true mate someone is if they don’t ostracise you after !

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:46pm
  75. Love the video and the story line . Been there done that ! Drunk too much and made a pass at the wrong guy ! Why make a big thing of it ? Shows what a true mate someone is if they don´t ostracise you after !

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:46pm
  76. The song does no such thing. It portrays a gay young man as just that–an “All-American boy” who just happens to be gay. The drinking and partying in the video have nothing to do with his sexuality–they are simply the setting for the “All-American” youth, partying and drinking with buddies, theme. That’s what the song does quite well, in my opinion–it places this young man in a familiar, almost universal social context and shows that, when it comes right down to it, his feelings and longings are really no different than anyone else’s.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:47pm
  77. The song does no such thing. It portrays a gay young man as just that–an “All-American boy” who just happens to be gay. The drinking and partying in the video have nothing to do with his sexuality–they are simply the setting for the “All-American” youth, partying and drinking with buddies, theme. That´s what the song does quite well, in my opinion–it places this young man in a familiar, almost universal social context and shows that, when it comes right down to it, his feelings and longings are really no different than anyone else´s.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:47pm
  78. Oh, fun, dueling stereotypes! Predatory drunk versus Bitter Old Queen!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:48pm
  79. not a big country fan, but this is a cool song. i hope the country music world and all areas of music will let this song be heard.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:50pm
  80. Humph…he doesn’t have much self-esteem or actually feel good about himself…he should have kept this kind of song to himself and stayed in the closet if this is what it does to him!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:51pm
  81. Humph…he doesn´t have much self-esteem or actually feel good about himself…he should have kept this kind of song to himself and stayed in the closet if this is what it does to him!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:51pm
  82. I’m not a huge country fan, but isn’t drinking and beer mostly what all country songs pretty much are about? ._.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:53pm
  83. I´m not a huge country fan, but isn´t drinking and beer mostly what all country songs pretty much are about? ._.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:53pm
  84. That has nothing to do with being gay.. That is a country thing. Anyone can see that.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:53pm
  85. Gay artists don’t owe the gay community anything when it comes to how they represent their art. You don’t like it, move along. No obligation on either side.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:53pm
  86. Gay artists don´t owe the gay community anything when it comes to how they represent their art. You don´t like it, move along. No obligation on either side.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:53pm
  87. I was just going to say – this is not the description of a gay country song but about 1/2 of all country songs. It’s either this or his man cheated and he’s about to pay with some busted up windows.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 1:56pm
  88. I was just going to say – this is not the description of a gay country song but about 1/2 of all country songs. It´s either this or his man cheated and he´s about to pay with some busted up windows.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 8:56pm
  89. It’s a song. Sadness, experimentation, mistakes, wishing to feel “normal”, it’s all normal. How many of our community drink. I don’t know those stats, but I know my own. What is sad is that someone, anyone felt they “must” cure themselves of something quite normal.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:00pm
  90. It´s a song. Sadness, experimentation, mistakes, wishing to feel “normal”, it´s all normal. How many of our community drink. I don´t know those stats, but I know my own. What is sad is that someone, anyone felt they “must” cure themselves of something quite normal.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:00pm
  91. Given the fact that not all of us are in a committed relationship and that we are all grown up men, you’re being a LITTLE BIT judgemental. I don’t always have to be a role model for fuck sake.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:00pm
  92. Given the fact that not all of us are in a committed relationship and that we are all grown up men, you´re being a LITTLE BIT judgemental. I don´t always have to be a role model for fuck sake.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:00pm
  93. No one said he didn’t. Everyone’s just exercising their right to say he’s wrong. ;)

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:00pm
  94. I’m confused…yesterday he was being praised for coming out…and know he’s being put down. Which is it?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:00pm
  95. I´m confused…yesterday he was being praised for coming out…and know he´s being put down. Which is it?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:00pm
  96. Wait…the str8 guy approaches Steve first!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:01pm
  97. At the bonfire!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:01pm
  98. The bitterness of King’s remarks reminds me of Bernard Shaw’s comment about the Irish: put an Irishman on a spit and you can always find another Irishman to turn him. Put a homosexual on a spit and always there’s another homosexual to turn him. Always. Why do we queerfolk always run one another down this way?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:04pm
  99. The bitterness of King´s remarks reminds me of Bernard Shaw´s comment about the Irish: put an Irishman on a spit and you can always find another Irishman to turn him. Put a homosexual on a spit and always there´s another homosexual to turn him. Always. Why do we queerfolk always run one another down this way?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:04pm
  100. Straight men drink too much,feel sorry for themselves,and come on to gay dudes when their girl friends won’t put out…then make a habit of it…

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:05pm
  101. Straight men drink too much,feel sorry for themselves,and come on to gay dudes when their girl friends won´t put out…then make a habit of it…

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:05pm
  102. Never said anyone did. Just making an observation.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:05pm
  103. What a load of bollocks.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:06pm
  104. hey, there are those that are and do. Just as there are straight folk who are and do…

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:14pm
  105. I grew up in the south where we had/have to hide who we are, and sadly many young gay men and women turn to alcohol and/or drugs. It is hard in the bible belt to be ourselves, and went down that road myself. It took me 20 years to just ignore the ignorance and just be myself without turning to drugs or alcohol anymore.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:21pm
  106. Sorry did;nt care for the video…..Gay boy goes after straight boy !!!! thats what I came away with….

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:21pm
  107. Wow. Do some of you have nothing better to do than to pass judgement or critique someone you know nothing about? Watching the video, I didn’t get 1. Alcoholic – I come from a long line of Alcoholics nor 2. It’s all about gay guys coming or wanting straight guys. It’s a song and a video. And we wonder why our grandmothers are so inflamed with soap operas. Holy cow!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:22pm
  108. Wow. Do some of you have nothing better to do than to pass judgement or critique someone you know nothing about? Watching the video, I didn´t get 1. Alcoholic – I come from a long line of Alcoholics nor 2. It´s all about gay guys coming or wanting straight guys. It´s a song and a video. And we wonder why our grandmothers are so inflamed with soap operas. Holy cow!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:22pm
  109. Oh, for crying out lowed, Predatory? The guy is drinking at a party and kisses another man and is rejected. Big woop

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:30pm
  110. frainkly I was happy to see that it didn’t end with him being dragged off tyed to the back of a car

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:31pm
  111. Sounds like a country song to me. How about being proud of the young man for making inroads? BTW, who hasn’t felt desire for one of their straight friends when they were young? I didn’t realize that was predatory.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:34pm
  112. Sounds like a country song to me. How about being proud of the young man for making inroads? BTW, who hasn´t felt desire for one of their straight friends when they were young? I didn´t realize that was predatory.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:34pm
  113. pretty much

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:34pm
  114. I was just pretty sure the song was about a guy with a crush on a guy and he and he just happened to really enjoy his alcohol. I definitely didn’t look for all the flaws in the video.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:35pm
  115. I was just pretty sure the song was about a guy with a crush on a guy and he and he just happened to really enjoy his alcohol. I definitely didn´t look for all the flaws in the video.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:35pm
  116. agreed

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:36pm
  117. Pretty much. But it’s country music. sad, predatory drunks are common in that genre, whether gay or straight.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:39pm
  118. Pretty much. But it´s country music. sad, predatory drunks are common in that genre, whether gay or straight.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:39pm
  119. Couldn’t disagree with you more!!! This is a beautiful video about a struggle many of us have had. It’s reality…can’t handle it?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:40pm
  120. Couldn´t disagree with you more!!! This is a beautiful video about a struggle many of us have had. It´s reality…can´t handle it?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 9:40pm
  121. We as a whole… are WAY too sensitive about shit.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:43pm
  122. Just more bitter commentary from an aloof over-analytical schmuck.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 2:52pm
  123. It’s as if the author has forgotten what it’s like to be young.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:10pm
  124. It´s as if the author has forgotten what it´s like to be young.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 10:10pm
  125. I think its more like a typical crush and not portraying gay men the way this post says. Its very sweet and cute!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:12pm
  126. Hardly Mark S. King – your article says more about your self loathing and current mental status then about the video… Sounds like you got bit by the jealousy bug

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:17pm
  127. Well, the author of this article really illiterates that sexual orientation has no effect on being a judgmental asshole. It’s a country song, and not a particularly bad one either. What a childish attempt to trash someone else’s piece of art. The whole article seems to be one big jealous jab at Steve Grand’s looks.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:18pm
  128. Well, the author of this article really illiterates that sexual orientation has no effect on being a judgmental asshole. It´s a country song, and not a particularly bad one either. What a childish attempt to trash someone else´s piece of art. The whole article seems to be one big jealous jab at Steve Grand´s looks.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 10:18pm
  129. this video obviously isnt trying to stereotype anything, its the story he wants to tell and he should tell it. period.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:19pm
  130. Totally agree Donna!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:19pm
  131. has this person ever watched some of the music videos out there?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:23pm
  132. Every one was drinking so how does it make gay people look like they drink to much. He had the hots for his best friend that he thought might have the same, how does that make him predatory. It make the writer of this to be the one that is sad. Don’t be so up tight. Have some fun.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:32pm
  133. Every one was drinking so how does it make gay people look like they drink to much. He had the hots for his best friend that he thought might have the same, how does that make him predatory. It make the writer of this to be the one that is sad. Don´t be so up tight. Have some fun.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 10:32pm
  134. I dont see it that way the article says..

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:34pm
  135. get over it ..nice song… and as gay people we do struggle a lot …so yeah get over it

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:36pm
  136. I liked the video and the music…and I strongly dislike country music. I myself can relate to the video as I’m thinking a lot of people can. The drinking is kind of what people do when they are partying. Really didn’t find it offense.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:44pm
  137. I liked the video and the music…and I strongly dislike country music. I myself can relate to the video as I´m thinking a lot of people can. The drinking is kind of what people do when they are partying. Really didn´t find it offense.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 10:44pm
  138. ya know wer’re gonna have “GINO”s now,, gay in name only. theres money in them there hills.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:47pm
  139. ya know wer´re gonna have “GINO”s now,, gay in name only. theres money in them there hills.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 10:47pm
  140. Isn’t that all country music though? All the country music videos my dad used to watch on TV were about them drinking too much, their pickup trucks and how sad they are pretty much.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:55pm
  141. Isn´t that all country music though? All the country music videos my dad used to watch on TV were about them drinking too much, their pickup trucks and how sad they are pretty much.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 10:55pm
  142. not all gay men drink too much plus he can not speak for everyone

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 3:56pm
  143. some are.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:01pm
  144. Other than the gay part-it the usual country song. Lets not wast time on this. Focus on the real issues**

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:12pm
  145. It seems to me that his song was about one point in time and does not speak for the entire gay culture…c’mon.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:18pm
  146. It seems to me that his song was about one point in time and does not speak for the entire gay culture…c´mon.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 11:18pm
  147. How incredibly ignorant. This is taken WAY out of context. The story of the video is all about longing. Don’t pick out anything that could be consider it bad and try to amplify it.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:27pm
  148. How incredibly ignorant. This is taken WAY out of context. The story of the video is all about longing. Don´t pick out anything that could be consider it bad and try to amplify it.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 11:27pm
  149. Sounds like he’s finding fault to find fault.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:29pm
  150. Sounds like he´s finding fault to find fault.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 11:29pm
  151. I hate to be that person but I too felt that the video would give off the wrong vibe. I was waiting for some article detailing exactly what I initially felt. He could have handled the video a little better. Yeah country music is about drinking and letting loose and whatever though he could have set an example for future country music that doesn’t depend on alcohol to feel “nice” and to “express yourself.” It sets the wrong example in my opinion. Some LGBT may think that drinking alcohol (or in extreme cases doing drugs) would be the way to finally accept yourself which is what artists nowadays SHOULD NOT enforce. Just my rant.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:31pm
  152. I hate to be that person but I too felt that the video would give off the wrong vibe. I was waiting for some article detailing exactly what I initially felt. He could have handled the video a little better. Yeah country music is about drinking and letting loose and whatever though he could have set an example for future country music that doesn´t depend on alcohol to feel “nice” and to “express yourself.” It sets the wrong example in my opinion. Some LGBT may think that drinking alcohol (or in extreme cases doing drugs) would be the way to finally accept yourself which is what artists nowadays SHOULD NOT enforce. Just my rant.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 11:31pm
  153. He did try to somewhat take advantage of the drunk situation and kiss the other guy :/ I could see where some people are going with it and its a gray area issue.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:33pm
  154. Of all the groups that could try to make thus ugly… It’s LGBTQ Nation. Go figure!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 4:40pm
  155. Of all the groups that could try to make thus ugly… It´s LGBTQ Nation. Go figure!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 11:40pm
  156. Shame on him!!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 5:09pm
  157. So… they’re kid of like straight men in country songs?

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 5:11pm
  158. So… they´re kid of like straight men in country songs?

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 12:11am
  159. Tha’ts what all country songs are though.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 5:15pm
  160. Tha´ts what all country songs are though.

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 12:15am
  161. The writer of that article needs a new perspective. For goodness sake, it is just a song ( and a good one at that ). What’s got his undies in a bunch anyway? Jeez…

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 5:38pm
  162. The writer of that article needs a new perspective. For goodness sake, it is just a song ( and a good one at that ). What´s got his undies in a bunch anyway? Jeez…

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 12:38am
  163. Sounds like someone’s really deep in that closet!!!!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 5:41pm
  164. Sounds like someone´s really deep in that closet!!!!

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 12:41am
  165. If it werent about a gay man and a straight man was singing it, that would be acceptable.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 5:53pm
  166. stop hating… your just looking for something to nag about.. who hasnt had the straight-gay crush… and hes a country boy… they drink.. thats how it is…

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 6:17pm
  167. I can definitely relate to the feelings he has, not sure its about being predatory as much as an expression of the feeling a lot of us have

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 6:26pm
  168. it’s a video about unrequited love, lighten up dude! I for one really enjoyed it!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 6:30pm
  169. it´s a video about unrequited love, lighten up dude! I for one really enjoyed it!

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 1:30am
  170. I disagree with Mark S. King. This is a great song, hot guy, tells a story familiar to many, emotional and the straight guy is cool even if not interested.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 6:48pm
  171. Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 6:48pm
  172. My god this is such bull..Mark has the right to state his opinion but this is just a young guy having fun and finding himself.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 6:49pm
  173. Sorry, but you are wrong! This is life in the country, especially the south! The sad one is the other guy who will marry and after so long dive into a bottle or pills to try and escape the fact that true love escaped him with the guy! This song is my life! Love that could not be because of social standards or power parents! Those of us who decided to remain true were often ridiculed in public and propositioned after dark! When turned away, they either fall into anonymous sex with one another at parks and truck stops and try to numb their pain with whatever they can! So the predator is not the one true to himself, but the one who winks at him while grabbing some girls ass!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 6:54pm
  174. WHAT? Oh come the fuck on! He’s portraying a teenager in the south with a crush. Because no STRAIGHT teenagers have EVER hit on or slept with someone who already has a SO? How bullshit. Does the song ‘girlfriend’ from Avril Lavigne (I don’t like your girlfriend; I think you need a new one!) portray all women as ‘predatory’? SHUT UP MARK S. KING! And, he isn’t predatory. He kisses the guy, and when the guy stops him, HE STOPS. Having a girlfriend is no way to tell the guy definitely isn’t gay, and the point is, the guy was sending him certain signals that he mis-interpreted because HE’S A TEENAGER IN THE *SOUTH* WITH A *CRUSH*. BIG EFFING DEAL! It’s a really common story! THIS IS WHY WE CAN’T HAVE NICE THINGS! If we want people to feel comfortable coming out and sharing their stories, we can’t – as their own community – BASH THEM FOR IT!

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 7:03pm
  175. WHAT? Oh come the fuck on! He´s portraying a teenager in the south with a crush. Because no STRAIGHT teenagers have EVER hit on or slept with someone who already has a SO? How bullshit. Does the song ´girlfriend´ from Avril Lavigne (I don´t like your girlfriend; I think you need a new one!) portray all women as ´predatory´? SHUT UP MARK S. KING! And, he isn´t predatory. He kisses the guy, and when the guy stops him, HE STOPS. Having a girlfriend is no way to tell the guy definitely isn´t gay, and the point is, the guy was sending him certain signals that he mis-interpreted because HE´S A TEENAGER IN THE *SOUTH* WITH A *CRUSH*. BIG EFFING DEAL! It´s a really common story! THIS IS WHY WE CAN´T HAVE NICE THINGS! If we want people to feel comfortable coming out and sharing their stories, we can´t – as their own community – BASH THEM FOR IT!

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 2:03am
  176. Not to mention cheating on your SO is a REALLY popular theme anyway.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 7:04pm
  177. I love his video and his song.

    Posted on Monday, July 8, 2013 at 7:20pm
  178. Ridiculous accusation! It is a true country song. And if you´re gay and haven´t had an unrequited crush on a straight friend than you are in a very small club indeed. Excellent song, great video, and it´s just down right real. I loved it!

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 3:32am
  179. Wow two stereotypes meet in the center. Gay Predatory drunk meets bitter old queen. I jest….at least about the first half of that comment, anyway. This kid is pretty damn brave and during a time like this, as we have seen such forward momentum in the world revolving around gay rights, it shows art reflecting life. Steve song is touching, passionate, thoughtful, and encapsulates the feelings of love many people feel even if its unrequited. That happens even IN relationships where one partner cant quite reach the other. In other words, life. Life in all its fuckedupedness and awkward and roller coaster momentum.

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 4:23am
  180. Lots of ill informed comment here. Why do so many people regurgitate cliches, before making such stupid ignorant comments you guys should listen to Emmylou Harris, Lucinda Williams, Mary Gauthier, John Prine, Guy Clark, Ray Wylie Hubbard etc. I could go on but really people wise up and educate yourselves before making such silly comments. Go check out “Drag Queens and Limousines” by Mary Gauthier on YouTube. All these years later it is still on the money.

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 5:14am
  181. It´s ONE song. And FYI, I know quite a few gay guys here, locally, who ARE burned out, drunken (or drugged out) predators. This is why I cannot find a boyfriend.

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 6:23am
  182. I heard this song yesterday…it has some truth about it (the angst of straight crushes not only for the gay male). Country music´s appeal is exactly that, the forelorn, torn up heart, etc.. He is in the right genre of music I say.

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 12:37pm
  183. LGBTQ Nation…you got this one wrong. We´ve all been there and done that so get off your high horse. This was a great song!

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 1:18pm
  184. Straight hetrosexual country “boys” act the same way !! When they get “Dumped” by there girlfriends and go out and get drunk and start crying in there beer over it. So What !!!! ??? Get over it ! Buck-Up, get over it -make peace with yourself about being gay and move on !!! And live your life accordingly…quit crying about it !

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 3:56pm
  185. Who Hasn´t had a crush on someone we can´t have…..Predatory and Drunk… REALLY?

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 4:24pm
  186. Let the drunk portray himself. What a rodeo clown.

    Posted on Tuesday, July 9, 2013 at 5:35pm
  187. I was waiting for someone to write this type of op-ed about this song. There are plenty of songs/videos out there for hetero couples that depict similar plots. The guy can sing and he´s doing his part to break ground.

    Posted on Wednesday, July 10, 2013 at 3:51pm