SAN FRANCISCO — A new study conducted by San Francisco State University human sexuality researchers focusing on the lifestyle changes that gay male parents experience suggests that as gay male couples become fathers their risk for contracting HIV is reduced.
Published by the Journal of Couple and Family Psychology on June 25, the study documents the effects of transitioning into parenthood for 48 gay male couples in the Bay Area, detailing the relationship issues that arose as a result of becoming parents.
“We’re trying to understand what barriers and positive things gay fathers encounter in that transition,” SFSU sexuality studies professor Colleen Hoff said. “Given that the HIV risk is so prevalent in the gay community, we wanted to know if parenthood would have an impact on HIV risk.”
In 2006, the study states, gay men made up 48.1 percent of total HIV/AIDS cases in the U.S. and in 2008, represented 51 percent of new HIV/AIDS diagnoses. Today, one in five gay male couples is raising children which begs the question, Hoff said, about whether becoming a parent leads to gay fathers engaging in more or less risky sexual behavior.
“A lot of them reported that with children at home they’re exhausted so the frequency of sex decreases, which could mean less risk for HIV,” Hoff said. “Roughly half the couples were in open relationships and reported there’s less time and desire to act on that. All together, one might think that having children moves people toward a less risky lifestyle.”
The reported decrease in sexual frequency was generally accepted by the couples as a direct result of prioritizing their children over themselves as they transitioned into a more mature stage of life.
“There was no resentment or frustration in most couples,” Hoff said. “Most of them really appreciated non-sexual expressions of intimacy: watching their kids walk down the street hand-in-hand with their partner or just appreciating the time hugging and sleeping together.”
The couples also reported spending less time with gay friends and more time with heterosexual parents, even moving to more suburban areas. The transition into parenthood, however, did not affect the type of sexual agreement that the gay couples subscribed to. Open relationships stayed open and monogamous relationships stayed monogamous.