The parents of two children enrolled at a private Christian school were warned they are “an inherent harm to kids” and banned from school events where children are present, after they posted LGBTQ+ affirming messages to Instagram.
The couple has since pulled their kids from the San Diego, California religious school.
In a TikTok video that’s earned half a million views and tens of thousands of likes and comments, the couple, Jaymi and Josh, explained that “we are very affirming of the LGBTQ community” and “our theology in this area has drastically changed over the years.”
“We don’t believe that being gay is a sin.”
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On New Year’s Eve, Jaymi posted on the couple’s familyandcoffee Instagram: “New Year, same me as I’ve always been. I’m just not going to hide this part of myself anymore. I’m queer and I’m a Christian. 🌈❤️”
That post and others led parents at the private religious school to complain.
“Because we publicly posted on that, things at our kids’ school changed,” Jaymi said in a TikTok video. “Josh was supposed to chaperone a field trip for our seven-year-old to a museum. And the day before the field trip, we were told that he couldn’t go because parents complained about our public social media posts affirming the LGBTQ community.”
A meeting with school officials confirmed the couple’s worst fears.
“I said, ‘So our years of youth ministry and our career serving children now make us an inherent harm to kids?’ And they basically said, ‘Yes, and you’re not welcome at any school events where there are kids present.'”
The couple has a long history of mentoring and fostering at-risk youth. In June, Jaymi testified before Congress about the needs of foster and adoptive parents.
While the couple wanted to keep their kids at the school through the end of term, ” We really couldn’t keep them there. That would mean that we weren’t allowed at any field trips. We weren’t allowed at any end-of-the-year parties. Nothing. And so that’s not a place that we can have our kids, if their parents aren’t welcome. And so we pulled them out.”
In the end, their farewell to the school was a sweet one.
On the boys’ last day at the private religious school, Jaymi dropped off two dozen rainbow and unicorn-bedazzled cupcakes to share with their classmates.
“We just decided to have fun with it,” says Jaymi.
“Petty,” Josh says. “I guess,” added Jaymi, with a smile.