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This dad accidentally discovered his son is gay — and reacted in the best possible way.

Derek de Koff

Heartbreaking coming out stories are unfortunately still all too common, which is why it’s important to share stories like this recent anecdote from a father who discovered his teen son is gay.

Earlier today, my oldest son left his cell phone on the living room table. I noticed that someone has been blowing his cell up, and curious ol’ me decided to see what was going on,” he wrote to the AskGayBros Reddit channel. “Well, I learned that he has been dating this boy from, what I assume to be his high school. I am not experienced on this topic, never really have been, til now at least.”

He continued:

I’d like to clarify that I love both of my sons and would continue to do so no matter what. I’m a 37 year old from Arkansas. My son is 16, turning 17 in a few months.

I’m basically asking for advice. My wife doesn’t know, and my son doesn’t know that I know. I’m going to post this tonight (Feb 10), and attempt to answer any advice given to me when I get home from work. Apologies if I’m off topic. I simply searched “ask gay” and I got here. Moderators, if you do not want me here, just say so, no hard feelings. I would appreciate it if someone would give a stranger some kind advice. :)”

Advice poured in, suggesting everything from “find a local PFLAG group” to “don’t approach him directly, just stay supportive.”

In a follow-up post, he shared how the big moment finally went down:

Today has been a really eventful day.

It all started with me casually asking my oldest if he’s seeing anyone this Valentine’s Day. I noticed that he got a little uncomfortable, and as any father would, I asked him what’s wrong. He went on about if I’d accept him no matter what. Well, as yall know, I 100% support my son, and after I told him that, he beat around the bush for a good 20 minutes. He ended up telling me that he’s gay, and has been seeing someone (which I already knew, of course). My wife and younger son were there, and everyone was happy with each other.

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