Trans-Stonewall: Chaz opens the door

Trans-Stonewall: Chaz opens the door

Forty years ago, the LGBT communities tumbled out of the closet at Stonewall, never to go back in again.

Stonewall conveniently produced a replacement for the now-gone communists; after all, nothing unites people like a good ol’ fashioned enemy!

Gay* people became the new devil to be protected against. “Hide your kids, your church doors, your family values—here come the gays.” And, it worked. For a time.

Lacey Schwimmer and Chaz Bono team up on ABC's 'Dancing With the Stars' on Sept. 19

Politicians, preachers and conservative groups all found that by building a storyline of the “radical gay agenda,” more people huddled together in fear and supportive wallets popped open.

Small enough in number (only about 5 percent of the population), the gay, lesbian and bisexual communities became an easy target with benefits. But, dang it, they are no longer co-operating as child recruiters, family destroyers and Bible burners. We are starting to realize they are born gay, they love their partners and families and they can be Jesus followers.

Who, oh who shall be the next “enemy” in historical parade of foes: slaves, Nazis, Communists, gays . . . oh, there, looming on the horizon, there they are: the transgender community.

Mark my word on this, it is happening. The reactions to Chaz Bono dancing across a stage on “Dancing With the Stars” with a beautiful woman in his arms will clearly reveal the next wave of brewing hatred from politicians, preachers and conservative groups.

A familiar repeat of an old pattern about gays and lesbians but now targeting the trans-community is already emerging:

  • Set the stage with fear and dispel the fact that transfolks are actually people. Reduce them to “freaks”.
  • Talk about their sexual confusion, a lot.
  • Find many professionals that will sound smart (even though every professional medical organization will have discounted those “experts”) and cite obscure studies with forty year old data.
  • Cite and talk about other variations of body “mutilation” like people who cut their arms and legs off. Equate that to sex reassignment surgery (SRS).
  • Manipulate statistics mixing gay and lesbian issues, which are about sexual orientation, with gender identity issues. So intertwine the two issues that people stay confused and uninformed.
  • Find some trans-people that were not properly guided in the process and transform them into poster children for the cause. They will tell us that they never should have transitioned. Make videos and flyers about them and push them out through Family Research Council, Focus on the Family, Americans for Truth, the Liberty Council, NARTH and the up and coming brigadier general of the anti-trans parade, Michael Brown of the Coalition of Conscience.
  • Tell us about the rare situations and kinkiest situations as if they are the norm. And then, tell us again, and again.
  • Tell us that transgender people are confusing our children so that our kids are now living in daily fear and questioning of “am I a boy?”, “am I a girl?” Warn us this will be part of the “recruitment of our children” during their vulnerable years.
  • Make us fearful of the society-wide blending of gender and role confusion that is inevitable. The family will disintegrate in a downward spirally of our sexual moral compass.
  • Remind us that trans-community is well organized with an “agenda” and if they get their rights to love and marry, pedophiles will soon be demanding their rights too.
  • And, with every threat and fear-based “fact” include what the what the Bible clearly says (to you) about transgender people. Make it sound really loving. Tell us you are only speaking up because you love truth and the transgender community.
Game on
Kathy and Lance

Transgender people are beginning to stand up publicly and join churches; they are becoming business and governmental leaders and are no longer conveniently hiding. They are a very small percentage of the population (again, a good target) being only about .25% to 1%. Insignificant? Maybe in a room of fifty people, but in the US, that means at least 900, 000 people. That is not a toss away number.

If you do not understand the transgender issue, then please, get some understanding so that you no longer say stupid and offensive things. Gender Dysphoria Organization is a good start or even my own simple post “Can Sized 14 Heels Keep You Out of Heaven?” from a Biblical point of view. Simply:

  • Gender and sex are NOT the same. Gender is what your brain says you are; sex is what your body says you are. It is a common childhood fantasy of trans-people to go to sleep and wake up the next day with brain and body matching. You can’t “pray the brain chemistry away” and, you surely can’t “pray the penis away”.
  • They know between 5 and 8 that they are different yet they do not have the language to identify the difference. It is not “sexual” in context, it is a “knowing”.
  • Sexual reassignment surgery (SRS) is not “self mutilation”, come on. No one is allowed to undergo this process in the US without long, prescribed medical and psychological counseling. It is carefully monitored.
  • The pronouns and nouns used to refer to transgender people are the ones with which they identify themselves no matter where they are in the process. Intentionally calling a transman by “she” and “her” is intensely offensive and incredibly mean spirited.

As the trans-community is bravely raising its
head and stepping out publicly, they are challenging society’s definition of gender and it will not be comfortable on either side. This
highly marginalized group is now in their own “Stonewall” period.

“We are here, we are valuable, and we too are children of God.”

Chaz dancing across a stage will be too much
for some people and it will add to the already brewing rumblings of “oh no you don’t.”

Be better than that. Don’t add obstacles to the already difficult road laid before trans-men and trans-women. They have the highest attempted suicide rate in the US. The highest unemployment rate. The highest rate of employment and housing discrimination. They want what we all do: dignity and respect. Not transgender rights. Just equal rights.

Someone voiced a valid comment to me when I suggested the onus be upon her/you to get informed about this small minority. Genia said:

HOW are those of us who are NOT members of the T community supposed to educate ourselves on issues that affect members of the T community when so many members of the T community have varying opinions and ideas on what it means to be transgender? We are often met with responses like “it is up to YOU to get educated” when we ask questions or when we ask for clarification.

So how do we go about gaining practical, relational knowledge when the likelihood is that most of us probably don’t know any transgender people? Transgender people, for the most part, are masters at suppressing who they are to survive. They invent ways to keep their identity hidden just to stay alive sometimes.


If intimacy in relationship means uncovering that, they need to feel safe. If you are a person that already indicates discomfort with the gay, lesbian and bisexual community, you would not be a safe or approachable person.

Good question, Genia. I learned this concept in my own relationship with my first very close lesbian friend, Netto. She did not tell me for a year that she was gay. It took her that long to assess me as “safe” and “trustworthy”and that was the beginning of my understanding and empathy for her and the LGBT community at large. When people feel safe, they will be more open and intimate. And thus, begins the process of mutual trust.

Until then, practical knowledge can be an entrée to conquering ignorant thinking about transgender people. The lies and misinformation I hear people babble about this group is maddening. When I started to understand gender dysphoria, oh my, did the trans-friend flood gates open! I was seen to be safe, compassionate and understanding and now, my friend-garden is filled with the most interesting of people that do not fit into my neighbor’s pink and blue flower box. I am the blessed one.

And to the transgender people reading this, forgive us for being uninformed and fearful. The encouragement to you is that five years ago, I too discounted you. I walked to the center and so did the very gracious Cecilia. Actually, she walked most of the way and I stumbled onto her path. If you see that there is that “thing” in us that looks safe and you are confident, please help us understand you.

So, here is a final story with flesh.

Recently, I was traveling back to my home in Nevada from California with a transwoman friend of mine, Lisa. I live near Lake Tahoe and was intent that she should swim in Tahoe before she went back home.

“Make sure you bring a bathing suit with you,” I told her.

As a little boy at ten, he was self conscious about his naked chest. Something in his head told him to cover up. Not even knowing anything about the differences between boys and girls beyond “girls wore dresses, were smaller and had long hair”, he felt “exposed” and tried to hide his chest when he swam. Gym class was a nightmare when the teams would break into “skins” and “shirts”. If he were on the topless “skins” team, it was intensely embarrassing. He purposefully missed swim team group photos; this was not a “body image” issue, it was a “deep knowing”; the sight of his penis was “awkward,” like it did not belong.


I did not know any of this when I invited my friend Lisa to swim that evening in Lake Tahoe. It was the first time she had gone swimming since her SRS. She dove into the water looking gorgeous in her swimsuit and got out and walked comfortably back to our towels in front of a group of young men. She did not cover her chest, she was no longer ashamed. Her body matched her brain and the disconnected pieces were now melded. She also realized she was no longer covering up and it overwhelmed her as she told me her story. A simple swim for me was freedom to Lisa.

When Chaz hits the floor dancing on September 19 on “Dancing With the Stars,” he will be dancing for so many of you, publicly standing in the face of bias and bigotry that so many of you face.

We can attempt to force our binary pink/blue view on the .25 – 1% because they are messy to us and we need them to exist within our comfort zones. Or, we can try to be Jesus-people and accept others for who they are.

I imagine I serve a Wonderful Creator Who really is creative; in all this lovely complexity of humanity, He understands both gender and sex. Plenty of people are already plotting the next onslaught of bigotry directed at the transgender community.

Some people will react with scorn and “how dare he/she” comments. Try not to be in that prison with them. I say “Dance Chaz.” “Swim Lisa.” God loves you just the way you are.

* Note: Although the trans community was VERY present at Stonewall, they did not become the focus of the public backlash. We have ignored them until recently.

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