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‘Would it have bothered you if your daughter, Whitney was gay? Absolutely.’

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Oprah: Would it have bothered you if your daughter, Whitney, was gay?”

Cissy Houston: “Absolutely,”

Oprah: “You would not have liked that?”

Cissy Houston: “Not at all,”

Oprah: “You wouldn’t have condoned it?”

Cissy Houston: “No.”

For those of you who have ever wondered why Whitney Houston — who seemed to have it all — wasted her life with drugs, alcohol and Bobby Brown – read the above one more time.

Read it knowing that if Whitney was indeed gay or even bisexual, her mother would never have given her one word of support, one hug of acceptance, one moment of love and understanding.

We will never know the sort of life Whitney Houston might have had if her Mother had been just a bit more compassionate, loving and accepting toward her daughter. If she is harboring this much anger still – one can only imagine what Whitney had to listen to while she was alive.

What we do know is that no matter if Whitney were gay or straight – it’s obvious that her Mother did not support her life choices as she writes in her book:

“I knew I didn’t want Robyn around my daughter, and I told (Whitney) that. There wasn’t much I could do though. (Whitney) like Robyn. She was past the age when I could forbid her from seeing someone. Kids have a mind of their own when they get older. They want to experiment with all kinds of things. And I don’t know if it was more than that.”


We don’t know what Whitney faced with her mother or any other members of her family or friends.

What we do know is this: Millions of LGBT, young and old face this sort of rejection and anger every day from their own Mothers, Fathers, Sisters, Brothers, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, friends, teachers, priests, pastors… Every single day… They are thrown from their homes that offered shelter and food and love into streets filled with nothingness simply because of who they are. One moment they are loved – the next they are alone.

This sort of homophobic behavior is reinforced on a daily basis by anti-gay organizations, homophobic politicians, and a few pastors and priests who preach that one must deposit a coin in the anti-gay toll booth to enter their highway to heaven.

I say we let Whitney Houston rest in peace – and I also say we work every day to change the hearts and minds of Mother’s such as Cissy Houston.

Children – all children – just need to be loved for who they are – not for what or who their parents want them to be.

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15 more reader comments:

  1. it’s ok, my mother doesn’t like it im gay. she lives with it, but i suspect because i live 3000 miles away she can pretend im not.

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:16pm
  2. My mom isnt crazy about it either….whatever.

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:19pm
  3. She might not have liked the idea if Whitney was gay but she also didn’t like her relationship with Bobby either. If she was gay so what.

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:19pm
  4. Fuck what Whitney’s mother thinks. You raised your daughter in the church and look how she turned out. A drugged up mess. And now thanks to her drug use she’s dead. Now ya grand daughter is running engaged to her step brother, using drugs, and abusing alchol. SMH. Spend what little time you got left on this earth and put your nutty grand daughter on the right path.

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:20pm
  5. Shame on Cissy! Bigoted old broad!

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:20pm
  6. Frankly this is sad, but too often the truth in many people’s lives. Not everyone runs to pills and booze to escape though.

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:37pm
  7. The comments about having a problem with her over who she might have been are distasteful, a mother trying to make money of her daughter’s death is disgusting so much for unconditional parental love.

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:47pm
  8. Hmmmmm

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 8:52pm
  9. As compared to what, smoking a lot of crack, then od’ing on Xanax and cocaine, and drowning in the bathtub? Guess I missed the memo…

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 9:10pm
  10. I can see why Whitney may never have found the greatest love of all. The God she feared was her mother’s judgments. Drugs offer temporary relief from fear and anxiety but ultimately kill you. I hope Whit is in the arms of the all loving God above us all.

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 9:17pm
  11. 90% of people get married to there 7th – 12th grade love since you have read this u will be told good news tonight if u don’t post this in to 9 more comments your worse week starts now

    Posted on Tuesday, January 29, 2013 at 9:23pm
  12. She doesn’t mind making money off of it by putting it in a book and doing the talk show circuit though.

    Posted on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 at 4:15am
  13. Mark Whiting, not everyone can handle rejection as well as others. Some seek the numbing effect of alcohol and drugs to help them cope.

    Posted on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 at 4:17am
  14. Embracing a gay child is not an easy thing, especially for parents who are unable to comprehend the notion that anyone could be gay, let alone one of their own. Unfortunately Whitney’s mother joins a long list of closed minded people whose lack of acceptance precedes their ability to be happy for their child no matter what.

    Posted on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 at 5:35am
  15. When parents choose to reject their child because they may be gay or bi, they are thinking only of themselves and not of their child. It is so sad that in this day and age we are loosing so many due to the prejudiced of others. Even as financially stable as Whitney was, her desire for her mothers love and approval may have been greater than her love for herself. Thats very sad.

    Posted on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 at 9:31am