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A gay dad’s open letter to Laura Bush on quitting the gay marriage ad
In these modern times, it is funny how we forge interesting and new kinds of relationships through media, social and otherwise. We gain unique attachments to people we have never met, some of whom we interact with on Twitter or Facebook, and some of whom we have never interacted with at all. I have such a pseudo-relationship with former first lady Laura Bush. This week our relationship, which had moved into a rather warm and appreciative state of late, took a turn for the worse.
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As a gay family formed, two little best friends became brothers
Some of those fighting marriage equality these days want you to believe that there is only a single possible right way to create a “real” family. That way, they suggest, is by means of unprotected, unplanned, procreative sex. Or, as Nan Hunter observes, “accidental procreation,” which then warrants 1500 protections and benefits by means of a “bribe (for) heterosexuals “ to get married. And only the biologically created family deserves marriage, they argue, and all the rewards to stay together…
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Gay dads don’t serve amicus briefs when we invite Supreme Court justices to dinner
Same-sex marriage is before the Supreme Court and the anti-gay community is out in force. Propaganda-like amicus briefs from the anti-gay community seem to be papering the walls of the Supreme Court on a daily basis. Nan Hunter, on The Nation, observed that the briefs are actually derogatory towards opposite gender families, and giving same […]
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Jadin Bell: The Lynching of a Butterfly and the Modern Mob
The officials are calling the impending death of young Jadin a “suicide”. It was not a suicide; it was the destruction of something innocent, something beautiful, something of supreme contribution exposed to an environment that valued it not at all. The facts support their word perhaps. No argument. A 15 year old boy took a rope to a playground and without assistance from any visible being, hung himself.
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What happens when a son tells his gay dad, ‘You are not my Mom’
I always figured there were certain hateful statements my sons would make, especially ones that say I am inadequate. Such statements would come out in the future during some teen age angst scrapple where I was laying down the law and they were going for my vulnerable jugular. My sister told me once, “If your kids don’t shout out that they hate you at least a few times, then you aren’t doing it right.” Up until now, no such shout out has occurred…
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Ten reasons why it’s unfair to compare LGBTQ’s to straight parenting
George Bernard Shaw once described straight parenting a having “no test of fitness.” — yet, LGBTQ parents are beyond the “test.” … In the present time, motivated gay people, thrilled for the opportunity we thought was denied us, are becoming parents. Higher percentages of us are adopting needy kids than our straight counterparts. A comparison between us will be unfair to a percentage of straight parents of today participating in the status quo who will come off badly. There are ten factors that make this so…
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10 things I wish the Pope could have observed on my family’s trip to Disneyland
The Pope has stated that gay families pose a “crisis” in which “the key figures of human existence likewise vanish: father, mother, child – essential elements of the experience of being human are lost”. Meanwhile, I was taking my gay family on a trip to Disneyland. On the day we went, so did 40,000 other people. I thought about what the Pope could see if he had been there with us. We were as any other family in the park — we were photographed together, kissed and hugged each other when moved to do so, held hands, and laughed a lot…
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A five point plan to creating the best Christmas ever
Last weekend, I set off to do my Christmas shopping. As a single gay Dad, time to do such an activity is scarce. I also have to admit, my heart is a bit distracted over the shopping endeavor this year. The night I went out, it was pouring rain, which fed into the “weather outside is frightful” milieu, but still meant the idea of shopping sucked…
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A gay dad reflects on the terrorism in Newtown, Connecticut
The fact is that 20 sets of parents got the call I most fear, and that without warning the precious looks, kisses, hugs, innocent conversations and happiness that are my heart and soul treasures can abruptly end and be removed, forever. This event was terrorism because so many of us feel the searing pain of the poor families who are facing the reality of their loss. I wish to my soul that I could spare them the pain they feel, I wish it more than any other thing this Christmas, and take little solace in the fact that I get to hug my boys and take them in my arms still.