Barbara Weicksel

Barbara Weicksel

I’ve spent most of my life wondering what it was I wanted to do with my life. In my 50′s I decided I wanted to write, and so write is what I’ve been doing. It’s become a part of who I am, a part of what I do. I’m also a photographer. Not a professional, but a photographer just the same. My writings can cover any subject – I don’t limit myself to one thing. I write what I feel, and I feel a whole lot about a whole lot of things!

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An open letter to the owner of The Stingray Cafe

Sunday, January 13, 2013
What is it about your spirituality, your religion, that you feel you have the absolute right to judge another human being? It certainly can’t be from the teachings of the Jesus I know who simply said: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.” I see nothing there of judging or intolerance – only the commandment to love one another. Period. [ Read more → ]
Eric Cantor

Eric Cantor and the Violence Against Women Act — What is wrong with these Republicans?

Saturday, January 5, 2013
Since the introduction of The Violence of Women Act in 1994, the bill has passed in a bipartisan manner – until now. Eric Cantor didn’t like it – so he killed the bill. He killed the bill because he and other House Republicans didn’t like the portions of the bill that had been expanded by the Senate to cover immigrants, members of the LGBT community, and the Native American community living within tribal jurisdiction. [ Read more → ]

Stroking a horse can cure ‘the gay’ – Yippee, ki Yah!

Sunday, December 30, 2012
So, let me see if I have this correct… if I use Equine Assisted Psychotherapy – which is sessions involving the stroking of horses – this will aid in the “curing” the “addiction” of my homosexuality. So says Raymond Bell, the Pastor of the Cowboy Church of Virginia. (I can’t make this up!) [ Read more → ]

The Salvation Army doesn’t ring the gay bell

Sunday, December 2, 2012
Try and imagine how you would feel if you needed help and were turned away from a shelter simply because of who you are and who it is you fell in love with. Charity is defined as something given to a person in need, there’s nothing in the definition about exceptions for the LGBTQ Community. These exceptions belong entirely to The Salvation Army... [ Read more → ]

President Obama and a little victory dance for the LGBT community…

Wednesday, November 7, 2012
We did this. You and I and millions of other Americans – Gay, straight, religious, atheists, black, white, Latino, men, women; all of us together – we did this. We understood what was at stake, we went to the polls, and we made our stand for justice, equality and freedom for every American. I’m proud of every single one of us who simply refused to allow hatred, ignorance and discrimination to rule the day... [ Read more → ]

Cast your vote – and let the chips fall…

Sunday, November 4, 2012
As gay Americans we need to remember those of our community who lived in times that were far beyond what I can imagine. These are the sweet brave souls who fought the fight and made it easier for us; and now it is now our responsibility to pay it forward – to make it easier for those generations of our LGBTQ family who will carry-on long after we’re gone. Remember this as you cast your vote on Tuesday... [ Read more → ]

How do Gays and Lesbians talk to Republicans?

Sunday, October 28, 2012
If you vote Republican and we come in contact with one another – I’ll be asking you face to face why you believe I’m not equal to you, and why you believe I don’t have the same right to everything this life has to offer as you do. Don’t start by telling me your vote wasn’t anything personal against me – for it most certainly was – Start by telling me why your human dignity is more important than mine... [ Read more → ]

Coming Out: It will change your life

Thursday, October 11, 2012
Life as a homosexual isn’t an easy life. From the time you know you’re gay until the moment you say out loud to the world around you: “I’m gay” could be 10 years, 15 years 30 years or in my case, 50 years. Some people never find the courage to say it out loud and live their lives hidden in shame and denial... [ Read more → ]

Surviving my own personal hell, living through ‘dyke to wife’ reparative therapy

Thursday, October 4, 2012
It was the 1970s reparative therapy for gays – you ignored who you were and tried to be what society, your church and your family wanted you to be. I did my best. I went to church, I sang in the choir, I had a job. I cooked, cleaned, did laundry and tried to be happy. The thing is – I wasted over 20 years of my life, and the life of my husband, trying to be someone I wasn’t... [ Read more → ]

The face of ‘modern slavery’ looks a lot like us

Sunday, September 30, 2012
Imagine, if you can, 400,000 gay youth forced to leave their homes, with no family, no support, and living on the streets. They become the most vulnerable among us. They become the epitome of what is an easy target for the criminals who want only to exploit their bodies for sexual prostitution; and not just prostitution, but commercial sexual exploitation. Children who are forced out of the only home they have ever known by parents, who can’t tolerate the thought of their child being gay, find themselves alone and on the street.... [ Read more → ]

The brave new world of selfish and stupid

Sunday, September 23, 2012
Those of you who have never had to say: “I’m gay” will never know the angst or the courage that is involved in coming out. Those of you who do know have an obligation to make the path a little easier than it was for you for the next person who garners the courage to speak their truth... [ Read more → ]

Is it Politics or is it Prejudice?

Friday, September 14, 2012
One cannot ignore the race question when it comes to this election. I’ve seen too many websites filled with racist cartoons and hate-filled rhetoric for me not to believe that we are still a nation filled with bigots who believe that gays, women and people of a certain color and religion have their place and need to be kept there. Sadly, the Republican Party plays on that with their anti-gay, non-Christian-baiting, women-hating, “let them eat cake” platform... [ Read more → ]

No political party will ever regulate love

Saturday, September 8, 2012
No matter who gets elected in November – no matter who makes the laws – no matter what religious zealots say; there is no one on the face of this earth, or any other earth, who will ever be able to regulate with whom a person falls in love. ... You cannot regulate love – no matter how hard you may try – you simply can’t tell people who to love. [ Read more → ]

Hate is easy. Love takes courage.

Friday, August 31, 2012
It’s become easy to hate homosexuals in America, and in some instances, it’s become a part of the fabric of the organization. Political parties, churches, social organizations make billions of dollars on their "gay hate.” They can wrap it in any sort of bow they want, but hate is hate. Period. For some of us in the gay community, it takes a great deal of courage to still love and value ourselves as Americans... [ Read more → ]

So, you still want to be a Republican?

Sunday, August 26, 2012
As we in the gay community continue the fight for gay marriage – there is still the ground-swell of: “Why do you need to be married? Can’t you just have a lawyer draw up all the legal papers you need? Just be domestic partners, that will give you all the legal rights you need.” [ Read more → ]

Marriage – Gay or Straight – is not about religion…

Sunday, August 19, 2012
Marriage in the United States of America is NOT about religion. The act of getting married to someone is not a religious act. It’s not based on any religion, any Bible, any book, any belief, any potion, any leader, nothing. One does not have to be religious to get married, and religious leaders do not have to preside over a marriage ceremony to make a marriage legal... [ Read more → ]

If you’re gay – A vote for Romney/Ryan is a vote against yourself

Wednesday, August 15, 2012
I do not understand the concept of being a gay Republican. I don’t know how one goes from saying: I’m gay and then adding: And I’m a Republican. I don’t know how one does this… I’ve asked how it’s done and the answers I usually get are vague or angry or completely nonsensical. [ Read more → ]

My being gay is not my opinion – it’s my life

Sunday, August 12, 2012
I’ve been asked numerous times why I write so much about gay issues. Why can’t I just let things go? Why can’t I just let others have their opinions? Why must I protest and tell people not to shop at certain stores? Why do I think my opinion is right? To be clear; it’s not my opinion, it’s my life... [ Read more → ]
Sally Ride

Can my ‘gay community’ please stop whining about Sally Ride?

Wednesday, July 25, 2012
We sometimes expect our famous gay and lesbian brothers and sisters to carry our banner to every corner of the world, shouting how we deserve and demand equal rights, when the reality is that they are simply trying to live a gay life in a straight world just as you and I are. I don’t believe we have the right to ask or demand that of anyone. [ Read more → ]

Hearing ‘Happy Pride’ is like hearing ‘Happy Birthday’

Sunday, July 22, 2012
“I love that everyone says Happy Pride, it’s like they’re saying Happy Birthday to us.” I’d never thought of it in those terms, however, for a gay and lesbian your life really does start the day you “come out,” and what is more festive and celebratory than a big gay parade? So Happy Pride now seems even more appropriate! [ Read more → ]

The Boy Scouts of America – How does one forgive Stupid?

Thursday, July 19, 2012
The Boy Scouts of America are a privately owned organization. It’s obvious who owns them – and it’s obvious that their Bibles all preach discrimination and homophobia. What a wonderful example of fine-Christian-Living this is, and how sad for the gay kids who already face hostility and violence every day in their own country. [ Read more → ]

Gay Pride parades are about so much more than tight shorts and motorcycles

Saturday, June 30, 2012
Ten years ago, I was 50 years old. My life had been spent in hiding and had been filled with so many lies and so much hurt and anger, I never imagined there was a way out. More specifically, I never dreamed there was a way for me to come out. But – there I was – this 50 year-old Lesbian, sitting on a corner waiting to see my first-ever Pride Parade. I was a stranger in a strange land – and yet I felt more at home on that street corner than I had ever felt in my home-town. [ Read more → ]

Oreo ‘pride’ — It’s not the cookie they hate…

Thursday, June 28, 2012
This whole boycotting Oreo cookies isn’t really about the cookie – You know that, right? This is all about hate and ignorance and for the most part it’s all tied up with the “God Hates Gays” bow ... Don’t blame Nabisco or my beloved Oreo for your hate-filled ignorance. [ Read more → ]
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