Barbara Weicksel

Barbara Weicksel

I’ve spent most of my life wondering what it was I wanted to do with my life. In my 50′s I decided I wanted to write, and so write is what I’ve been doing. It’s become a part of who I am, a part of what I do. I’m also a photographer. Not a professional, but a photographer just the same. My writings can cover any subject – I don’t limit myself to one thing. I write what I feel, and I feel a whole lot about a whole lot of things!

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Gay, Irish, in Boston? The St. Patrick’s Day Parade is not for you

Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Let me begin by saying I’m not Irish – something my Irish partner Susan tries daily to not hold against me – and I do not understand the need for all the St. Patrick’s Day tomfoolery. That said, it is beyond my scope of reason to believe that there is not one Irish LGBTQ person in the city of Boston who wouldn’t love to march in their annual parade and celebrate their heritage and their service in the U.S. military... [ Read more → ]
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If I knew you were coming, I would have baked a cake…

Saturday, March 1, 2014
I’m always touched when people of faith send their love and compassion my way… These people – these Christians – What are they so afraid of and why are they so very hateful? This picture of the cake and all the other pictures and blogs and outrage since Governor Jan Brewer vetoed that hateful bill in Arizona isn’t about “freedom of religion” – but you know that, right? [ Read more → ]
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Arizona – Why You Gotta Be So Mean?

Friday, February 21, 2014
It’s not just the LGBTQ folks who should be upset by this hideous Arizona law. Every American should be concerned that by simply being who you are you can be refused service, refused a place to live, refused a job, refused anything if someone believes that to give you said thing or service would violate their practice and observance of their religion. And what sort of religion would encourage anyone to discriminate? You either believe that love and peace is for every human being or you do not... [ Read more → ]
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Coming Out – Yes, it still does matter

Friday, October 11, 2013
I didn’t come out until I was 50. In those 50 years I lied, cheated on a husband, denied who I was and tried desperately to be the daughter, sister, wife, cousin, friend that I was expected to be. It didn’t work – it never works. And those who believe that to be gay is a choice we make, well, they will never, ever understand the struggle that takes place within most of our souls. Truthfully, most people believe that just saying the words “I’m gay” means you’ve come out. In a sense it does, however, the real coming out, in my opinion, is when you look at that reflection you see in the mirror and say “I’m Gay” and you don’t look away in shame – that’s when you’ve come out. [ Read more → ]
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From Alabama with love: One congressional candidate’s pledge of hate

Tuesday, October 1, 2013
Did you know that in Mobile, Ala., there were nine Republicans running in a special election for Alabama’s 1st Congressional District. And you're probably are wondering why you should care about this if you don’t live in the State of Alabama. You should care because one of these candidates – Dean Young - challenged the other eight to sign a pledge saying that, if they get elected, they will take any and all active steps to oppose same-sex marriage... [ Read more → ]
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You know, it’s not just about the pasta…

Sunday, September 29, 2013
You all know it’s not about the pasta. It’s about discrimination and intolerance and ignorance. It’s about a mindset that continues on for generations and generations – passed down through a family like Green Bay Packers or Boston Red Sox tickets. When the Chairman knew his words had created a firestorm, he said this: “I only wanted to underline the central role of the woman in the family." Well, as a woman who is also a lesbian, I feel so much better now. [ Read more → ]
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Putin’s anti-gay Olympics – Should we participate and condone the hate?

Saturday, August 10, 2013
Perhaps it’s because the United States is so divided on the issue of gay rights that, as a country, we are so divided on the Russian anti-gay, Olympic issue. We have states making laws that allow us to marry and states making laws that prevent us from getting married. We have Christians who hate us, and Christians who love us. We have politicians who work tirelessly to see that we have our constitutional rights, and politicians who use every ounce of their power to make sure that the Constitution was most certainly not written with the homosexual in mind. For me, the Olympics are a no-brainer... [ Read more → ]
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Should states’ rights decide gay rights? Or any rights?

Sunday, July 21, 2013
The citizens of each state want what they want. The people with the money have the power, and they want to mold their cities and towns to their own little standards, with their own little rules, their own little prejudices, and their own little innuendos. Those who struggle to keep their heads above the water have no money which means they have no power and their voice is very rarely, if ever, heard. They are considered “the other,” and the laws are never structured to their benefit ... LGBTQ citizens fall into “the other” category. [ Read more → ]
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Hello, Mr. President? The ‘ex-gays’ called, they would like their pride back…

Tuesday, July 2, 2013
Bear with me while I ask this question: If you are ex-gay, are you not straight? And if you’re straight, do you not have every right and privilege given to every straight person in America? I only ask because Christopher Doyle, the co-founder of a group called Voice of the Voiceless, requested a meeting with President Obama or a senior member of his civil rights staff to “discuss tolerance for the ex-gay community and how the White House can ensure equal access for ex-gays in the nation’s capital, which is the only jurisdiction that recognizes ex-gays as a legally protected class.” [ Read more → ]
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DOMA is dead – but the haters live on

Saturday, June 29, 2013
I don’t believe I understood how much I was holding inside of me, until I no longer had to hold on to it any longer. When Pete Williams of MSNBC announced that DOMA, the federal Defense of Marriage Act, was dead, I broke into tears. Not just a few tears – I couldn’t stop them from coming. It was in that moment that I realized that in the eyes of my government, I am no longer a second class citizen. [ Read more → ]
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Josh Duggar’s new job: Spreading homophobia and intolerance, FRC style

Thursday, June 20, 2013
According to the Family Research Center (FRC), Josh Duggar “will bring his pro-life and pro-family passions to the political arena where he will help expand FRCA’s reach as a premier conservative advocacy group.” In plain speak, Josh Duggar is going to help spread hate, discrimination, homophobia, ignorance, and intolerance -- FRC style. [ Read more → ]
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Marco Rubio: No ‘special’ rights for gay Americans — but I’m not ‘a bigot’

Friday, June 14, 2013
I wish I understood why allowing married, bi-national same-sex couples to apply for a visa through the marriage-based green card application process is such an abomination to Marco Rubio. ... Perhaps all we have to do is take a look at his voting record in the Senate and the statements he’s made to understand the soul of Sen. Marco Rubio. [ Read more → ]
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The heckling lesbian — lending credence that we’re crazy gay activists pushing our gay agenda

Wednesday, June 5, 2013
Rude behavior just gives more fuel to the conservative, homophobic Americans who believe we are simply crazy gay activists pushing our gay agenda into the face of every American. It gives credence to their idea that we are simply a bunch of perverted morons, who want attention and rights, and will do whatever, whenever to garner attention which they don’t believe we deserve. Michelle Obama is not an elected official. She is the wife of the President of the United States... [ Read more → ]
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The Boy Scouts of America and the irreverent churches

Friday, May 31, 2013
And so it begins -- the abandonment of the Boy Scouts of America by churches of the Southern Baptist persuasion, for the lifting of the longtime national ban on admitting openly gay Scouts. At the end of the day, who really suffers here? The Southern Baptist Convention? The Assemblies of God? The Southeast Christian Church? No, of course not. These churches will continue to preach their version of the Bible and continue to discriminate and alienate. And they will do it all in the name of their so-called “loving” God. [ Read more → ]
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Kaitlyn Hunt’s Life – It Haunts Me

Sunday, May 26, 2013
The Kaitlyn Hunt story haunts me. I can’t sleep restfully, my mind keeps wandering, and my heart is heavy. Kaitlyn Hunt’s story could be my story. My first love was in high school – I was 15, she was 17. Then, I was 16 and she was 18. All of the kissing and touching and experimenting – it was consensual, it was emotional, it was… love. And apparently, it was a felony. [ Read more → ]
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Sex and the teenage girl: The Kaitlyn Hunt tragedy

Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Be honest, how many of you reading this column would have been charged with “lewd and lascivious battery on a child 12-16 years of age” when you were 18? This is assuming of course that you got caught, and the state you lived in had such laws. Gay sex, straight sex, touching, fondling, groping, licking, sucking – I’m talking sex of any kind. How many of you would right now be registered as a sex offender? [ Read more → ]
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Everything is bigger in Texas – even the homophobia

Friday, May 17, 2013
For those of you who wonder why it is I continue to write about equality issues and continue to ask you all to not give up the fight for what is right and just in this world, and wonder why marriage equality is so very important, it is because of Carolyn Compton, Page Price and their children. They are the reason. And because it could be you or me standing in a court room, watching helplessly as a homophobic judge wields his gavel down on us... [ Read more → ]
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Gay athletes and celebrities who ‘come out’ – Are they heroes?

Saturday, May 4, 2013
Do you consider Jason Collins a hero for coming out as the first professional gay male athlete? What about Ellen DeGeneres or Anderson Cooper, Neil Patrick Harris or Rachel Maddow? Are they heros? First, let’s be clear on the definition of the word hero. Dictionary.com defines the word hero as such: "a man of distinguished courage or ability, admired for his brave deeds and noble qualities." [ Read more → ]
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Ban me from my partner’s bedside? You’d have to arrest me too!

Thursday, April 11, 2013
Marriage Equality is about being able to hold the hand of the person you love when they are sick and need your love and compassion the most. It’s about making decisions that all people will eventually have to make about life and death, and who you want with you at the end of your life. Two men have all the legal papers they were told they needed. They followed the law, and still, one man is in a hospital bed while his life partner is restrained and dragged from the premises. [ Read more → ]
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Fifty shades of red: The fight for equality marches on

Saturday, April 6, 2013
There are just some people who will go to their graves believing what they believe. That is their journey – that is their little bit of racism, hatred and discrimination they will have to answer for. I believe at this moment in time, the red on the equality map needs to be celebrated. I believe the acceptance and support of our friends and families and co-workers and strangers needs to be celebrated, for these are the people who will stand by us and love us and help us to win whatever battles may lie ahead... [ Read more → ]
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If you yell all the time – no one will listen

Sunday, March 10, 2013
After years of struggling we are finally having our gay voices being heard and our civil rights are ever so slowly coming to pass. Why then must the voices who seem to speak for the gay community believe that it’s perfectly okay to start telling people where they can and cannot speak? If Tim Tebow wants to speak at Liberty University who are we to tell him otherwise? [ Read more → ]
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It’s not about the wedding cake – but you know that, right?

Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Don’t you just hate it when the law actually protects the people you want to discriminate against? For those of you who believe that it’s only a cake and we (the gays) should just go to another bakery, understand this: it’s not about the cake. This has nothing to do with the cake. This is about living in a country where people are still under the assumption that they were given — by their God — the right, and the responsibility, to discriminate against another human being. [ Read more → ]
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‘Would it have bothered you if your daughter, Whitney was gay? Absolutely.’

Tuesday, January 29, 2013
We will never know the sort of life Whitney Houston might have had if her Mother had been just a bit more compassionate, loving and accepting toward her daughter. If she is harboring this much anger still – one can only imagine what Whitney had to listen to while she was alive. [ Read more → ]
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Separate but equal is never equal – Ever.

Sunday, January 27, 2013
I don’t want to rain on anyone’s LGBT Inaugural moment, however… Even though the President mentioned Stonewall along with Selma and Seneca Falls in the same sentence, he doesn’t really see gay marriage as a civil rights issue that needs to be helped along by the federal government. For the truth of the matter is, no matter what President Obama may say, and no matter where he is when he says it – he still believes that marriage equality belongs in the hands of the States. [ Read more → ]
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Who are you to judge Jodie Foster?

Monday, January 14, 2013
I don’t understand this whole philosophy that exists by some in the gay community that doesn’t tolerate any sort of weakness when it comes to a gay celebrity. This whole thing that says if you’re gay, and you’re any sort of celebrity, or have any sort of power, it’s your responsibility to pave the way for every other gay person in the world. I don’t believe its Jodie Foster’s responsibility to make my life easier. I don’t believe it should be the job of any celebrity to make my life easier... [ Read more → ]
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