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‘Mom… I’m gay, I own a porn company, and I’m in a polyamorous relationship’

‘Mom… I’m gay, I own a porn company, and I’m in a polyamorous relationship’
Benjamine Heath
Benjamine Heath

Coming out once is hard enough. But for Benjamine Heath, he had to come out to his mother three times, once as gay, once as owning a porn company, and once as being in a polyamorous relationship.

Benjamine recalls how it all began:

When I came out as gay, I was 17 years old and (my mother and I) used to have these explosive fights. One time we were having this huge fight, yelling at each other from across the apartment, and at one point she just screams at me, “Are you gay?!” And then I’m like, “Yeah, I’m gay!” And then all of a sudden the conversation just takes a complete 360, and she starts telling me that she’s completely fine with it and then goes into stories about her experimenting with lesbian relationships in college.

Later, after dodging questions about his work and why he was traveling so much, Benjamine realized it was time to come clean about owning his porn company, CockyBoys: “Eventually I was on the phone with her and I just told her I work in the adult entertainment business and I own a porn company.”

Yet Benjamine had one last secret to open up to his mother about: his polyamorous relationship. As it turns out, she already knew.

This is Benjamine’s true LGBTQ story:

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