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‘Surprise!’ Abby comes out to her 90-year-old grandfather

Abby Fink

Abby Fink

Abby Fink

Abby Fink

Abby Fink has always been close to her 90-year-old grandpa. As she began to get older, he started to become a bit more inquisitive about her personal life, making it slightly uncomfortable, since she wasn’t out to him.

Abby recalls:

I’m pretty close with him. I call him every couple of weeks. Usually we have a phone conversation and he asks how New York is, or school, or wherever we are. And in every single conversation he’s like, “Do you have a boyfriend? Do you have a boyfriend yet? Where’s your boyfriend?”

Abby took her girlfriend home to Minneapolis over Labor Day weekend, and, at the insistence of her father, her girlfriend joined them for the family lunch with Grandpa. After an awkward beginning, with Grandpa not knowing who Abby’s surprise guest was, Abby’s dad stepped in and began the conversation:

[M]y dad is like, “This is actually Abby’s girlfriend.” And she and I kind of both made eye contact at the same time, and we’re both like, “Surprise!” at the same time — like, simultaneously. And everyone kind of chuckled, and then there was this long pause. We were all kind of, like, waiting for him to respond. And he just goes, “I love it!”

And that was that.

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