In memory of Justin Aaberg
March 9, 1995 – July 9, 2010
The hot, sticky days of July are often a time of family vacations, summer school, summer jobs, and for others who have just graduated from high school, time spent with family and friends before leaving home for college.
For 18-year-old Graeme Taylor, whose academic endeavors have led him to enroll at Kenyon College in Ohio as an incoming freshman this fall, it’s a trip to Michigan’s Upper peninsula with good friends in celebration of that one last time together — friends who have stuck by Graeme even after he announced to his classmates and the world four years ago that he is gay.
But in a quiet suburban home north of Minneapolis, some 600-plus miles west of Graeme’s home in Ann Arbor, Mich., the Aaberg family remembers their own unhappy anniversary — it’s been four years since 15-year-old Justin took his own life on a quiet July morning.
Justin was gay, and one of many victims of an anti-gay bullying epidemic at his Minnesota high school in which suicide had already claimed the lives of six other students, and eventually resulted in a federal probe and lawsuit.
Now, four years since the two teenage boys walked very similar, and yet very different paths, “Same Difference,” a new documentary film from Pittsburgh-based filmmakers Joshua Sweeny and Kyle Wentzel examines the contrast in the stories of both Graeme and Justin.
“We’re hoping to present the issue of bullying and how life is for these kids by contrasting in a clear way that highlights how communities and schools play a role in growing up LGBT,” Sweeny tells LGBTQ Nation.
In the fall of 2010, Graeme received national attention for his spirited and public defense of Michigan high school teacher Jay McDowell, who was suspended following an incident that began when he asked a student to remove their Confederate flag belt buckle.
The exchange prompted a discussion over the difference between Confederate symbols and LGBT rights symbols, and ended when McDowell tossed two students from his classroom for saying they refuse to accept their gay classmates.
Graeme had traveled to Howell, Mich., to defend McDowell and protest his suspension at a school board hearing.
The Howell High School controversy struck a chord nationally as it highlighted a disturbing growing pandemic of teen suicides, even as many school districts nationally were proposing ways to enact anti-bullying programs.
But those efforts set off a rancorous debate over LGBT rights, morality and family values. In the end, parents and school administrations agreed that school bullying, and the suicides that result, must be stopped.
Graeme’s speech in defense of McDowell came just four months after Justin took his life.
It was July 9, 2010, a heart-breaking day of “horrible images” that Tammy Aaberg says she will never forget.
Tammy and her youngest son Anthony had returned from from shopping around noon and discovered that Justin had not made his usual appearance.
She pounded on her middle son’s locked bedroom door, and after not receiving a response, panicked. She forced her way in by dismantling the door knob to find Justin dangling off the ground. He was hanging from the frame of his futon, which he’d taken out from under his mattress and stood upright in the corner of his room.
She ran to him but it was too late. His body was cold and lifeless. It was later determined that Justin had been dead for hours by the time Tammy broke into his room.
Pages: 1 2