A prominent Senator announcing that he has broken with his party to take a position of basic decency and empathy should not be so unusual that it becomes front page news.
But that is exactly what happened when Ohio Sen. Rob Portman announced that, inspired by his gay son coming out two years ago, he now supports marriage equality.
Sen. Portman came at his change of heart the same way millions of Americans have — by recognizing that anti-gay politics do real harm to someone he loves. He now joins the majority of Americans who favor marriage equality.
The difference is, Sen. Portman isn’t just any American. He’s a member of a small and exclusive club that brooks no deviation from its far-right ideology.
Like many of his fellow Republican leaders, he is in a bind if he wants to reject any part of his party’s orthodoxy. It took a particular confluence of circumstances — his son coming out and a watershed election for gay rights — to get him to buck his party on just this one issue.
I’m glad that Sen. Portman has found the decency, at least on this issue, to realize that public policy can cause personal harm. But the fact that this nation-wide wave of empathy hadn’t until today breached the highest levels of the Republican Party — and that it was a surprise when it did — shows just how far out of the mainstream the party has gone.
It’s become a given and a matter of fact that basic equality is a strongly partisan issue.
Sen. Portman wasn’t elected to represent the best interests of just his family. And he is surely not the first or only prominent Republican to have a close friend or family member who is gay. But he is one of the first to find it politically advantageous — or at least not political suicide — to support marriage equality while still in office.
That says much more about the disconnect between Republican orthodoxy and American values than it says about Sen. Portman’s change of heart.
Many are rightly pointing out that Sen. Portman should use this experience to try out some empathy for some other groups that might not be represented in his immediate family — low-income people, immigrants, people denied insurance coverage for preexisting conditions, union members, pregnant teenagers, people who have to wait seven hours to vote, etc.
These are all issues on which, like gay rights, most Americans have more nuanced and empathetic views than the leaders of the Republican Party. As has been pointed out, if some Republican senators’ daughters come out as female, then maybe we’d have a chance of equal rights for women.
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For too long, Republican elected officials have been required to leave their empathy at the door and have been forbidden to break with party orthodoxy on any issue at all. Even former “mavericks” like Sen. John McCain have fallen in line when threatened with Tea Party primary challenges.
Let’s hope that more Republicans follow Sen. Portman to a position of decency on gay rights. And then that Sen. Portman and his colleagues can break free of Tea Party dogma and consider empathy for the millions of Americans to whom they are not related.
It will be a great day when a Republican senator taking a position of basic decency isn’t news at all.
![]() ![]() ![]() | Michael Keegan is President of People for the American Way. Reprinted by permission. |
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Its not empathy. It affected him personally. Empathy is the ability to look beyond oneself and understand other people’s suffering.
This is nothing but greed.
I’m not impressed.
why? cuz he’s a teabag.
damn cant this guy evolv like the pres did…i meen he cooda had a epifany cuz his boy is gay…an reely cant we use all the alys we can get..no mattr the reeson
Okay, so the dude should always have thought “What if my kid…..” but he didn’t. He changed his mind, he has evolved, let’s get over it and welcome him to the “family.” We need to forgive, guys. That’s showing we are the bigger ones.
Forgive? No one gets credit for simply being ethically correct.
He’s still a republican asshole with his face buried up corporate ass. He is nothing. Just someone jumping late onto a boat that’s already sailed because it is now the more popular position.
Lets try not to judge him…… I know he is big time economics and has some very different opinions than I do on that. But LOVE came into his heart…..it may go further.
I thought our goal is to change minds?
he is an ass-it took a personal confrontation to recognize the fact that being gay is not a choice>?
I don’t think it is shocking, gay people were ‘the other’ right up until they weren’t. He learned and he changed, this is good.
It was shocking because a Republican actually showed empathy! ;-)
Shocking to whom? It’s been our mantra for as long as I can remember: the way to change the hearts and minds of people, particularly the ones who love you, is to come out to them. His son came out to him and that brought our issues front and center on his radar screen. We should be using this story as a prompt to others to come out, rather than bashing Portman for needing his son’s coming out to awaken his empathy.