Neil Clark Warren, the Christian co-founder of the dating site eHarmony, said he’s “tired” of the debate over marriage equality for gays and lesbians, and blamed same-sex marriage for damaging his company.
Neil Clark Warren
In an interview with CNBC/Yahoo!’s “Off the Cuff,” Warren also said that someone needs to “do a really first class job of figuring out homosexuality” because it’s “a painful way for a lot of people to have to live.”
“I think this issue of same-sex marriage within the next five to 15 years will be no issue anymore. We’ve made too much of it. I’m tired of it. It has really damaged our company,” Warren said, “and when the attorney general of the state of New Jersey decided that we had to put up a same-sex site and we did it out of counsel that if we didn’t do it we were not going to have any business in New Jersey — we literally had to hire guards to protect our lives because the people were so hurt and angry with us, were Christian people, who feel that it’s a violation to scripture.
He continued, “I have said that eHarmony really ought to put up $10 million and ask other companies to put up money and do a really first class job of figuring out homosexuality. At the very best, it’s been a painful way for a lot of people to have to live. But at this point, at this age, I want America to start drawing together. I want it to be more harmonious.”
eHarmony, which in its early years primarily marketed to a Christian clientele, has been the target of numerous lawsuits over the years for its refusal to match same-sex couples.
In 2008, eHarmony reached a settlement with New Jersey’s Civil Rights Division in a discrimination case — the company agreed to launch a new website that would cater to same-sex couples. Compatible Partners was launched in 2009.
In 2010, eHarmony agreed to pay $500,000 and make its website more gay friendly by adding a”gay and lesbian dating” category to its main website to send users to its Compatible Partners site. The agreement was part of a settlement in a California class-action lawsuit.
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fuck eharmony
LOL
*facepalm….
bullshit
lol
he had to hire people to protect him from whom? Other Christians…..fucking morons!
Stop trying.Please.You aren’t succeeding.
Oh, he can fuck the hell off and bite a curb.
What’s painful is setting up a website for pervs and stalkers!!! >:(
my dick shoved far down your throat is ‘a painful way’ way to live… XD
go bankrupt
He’s evil.
does he talk about how its okay for psycho’s to meet and date but not lgbt?? yea he can go away now….ill be sure to mute his dumb ignorant old ass when his commercials are on tv/radio
Oh, wow.
E-Harmony has long been a racist & homophobic bunch of fools feeding off the desperately feeble-minded.
Blames a group for their own incompetence? Oh get real.
Founder is a Jackass.
use more lube
- Oh, poor frackin’ company….boo-hoo, whoop-de-schnitt. Won’t /someone/ think of the companies?
The only pain about it is caused by hateful ignorant coldhearted bigots like that.
GO SUCK A LEMON
Oy!
Old son of a bitch. The senile bastard still thinks it’s 1945
As painful as people like him make it
It actually feels pretty good. Haha
GO SUCK A LEMON
POF is better!
Oh please Jackass…eHarmony is nothing but WestboroMingle.com lite…you’re just pissed because you had to create a gay dating site…let me get my m***** f****** violin!
Being in the closet is painful, being gay is not, he should ask someone who knows.
They gay community in my eyes is not painful, I enjoy it respectful loving people yes people not subhuman.
Hemorrhoids are painful. Being Gay is not. It is only made painful by the derision of OTHERS. Live & let live, & the world suddenly becomes a much better place.
Dumb…….that doesn’t make any sense to me. What about all of the straight ones and where some of them turned out to be? This man is losing his mind
Fuck you and your stupid ass site. If you were so concerned about up holding the sanctity of marriage you wouldn’t be charging for love. Fuck you. My presidents black and my Lambo is blue. Suck my dick
I didn’t come out of the FUCKING closet to hear this bullshit
No, what’s painful for GLTB is homophobia generated by religious prejudice!
What a freak. I’m not in pain because I’m gay. I have a great life with a great guy. I’m educated, own my house, have kids. Boo freaking hoo people are living in a way he doesn’t like. Oh and I’m Christian. Christ never once said anything about homosexuality.
Should’ve known he was a homophobe.
The horny, old eHarmony guy (this is how I’ve referred to him until I figured out his name just now) has always creeped me out! >:(
I believe Christian Mingle damaged your company more than gay marriage.
he can kiss my gay ass!!!!
The only way that it might be painful is due to ignorant bigots like you preventing them from having rights equal to those of heterosexuals.
Disgusting.
Oh, for heaven’s sake! What an idiotic claim!
Yet another HOMOPHOBIC MORON for the bunch!!! GET OVER YOURSELF!!! It’s not about YOU, it’s about <3 for one another!!!
He’s gay
if you listen to Jesus he tells us to love everyone regardless of skin color, sexual orientation etc. btw I’m pansexual so I think that Gay marriage should be legal!
I’m sorry but eHarmony ain’t Harmony enough, Neil Clark Warren go home you’re drunk.
I tell ya what, it was painful for me trying to live that “straight” life society expected me to live and every day hate my authentic self. *That* was painful.
he can stick his opinion and his bible where the sun dont shine
Perhaps it’s other websites competing against yours, you old odd fool!
Is this fucktard for real? His face damages my eye sight but you don’t hear me complaining
I encounterd one who is the pastor at my church today he is trying to have members of the church congregation reverse the bill of Gay Marriage being passed where I live in Illinois he’s a b****
@Bobby you have a lambo? SWEET
True asshole…
my boyfriend and I decided A LONG time ago that eharmony is bull sh*t and anyone who signs up for it is asking for a full of bull sh*t relationship that’s full of false advertisement and lies, mostly because we <3 and support the GLBTQ community
2 thoughts here, first, how does he know what sexual orientation his clients are and he’s in no position to be judging weather people are in pain or not
I tried their “compatible partners” thing and found it to be the same BS as the “straight” site. If you didn’t match their “clientelle” list, it would tell you in no certain terms that you weren’t right for their site and to go look elsewhere. Or, if they did provide matches, that said matches would be absolutely terrible. No thanks.
Same-sex marriage “damaged” their company? Did all the pretend heteros up and leave or something? The only thing damaged is his brain,
Just another evil face of hatred in a crowd of many….this company should be gone or maybe Dorothy can drop a house on him too!
fuck eharmony. use mingle2: http://mingle2.com/
OH BOO HOO…get over it…
Ugh. All bigots are the same. In other news, I love my black boyfriend. Lol
Or OKCupid, nu?
I’ve always been sceptical of their company and disliked the eHarmony ads, this confirmation of intolerance and ignorance on behalf of their ownership just confirms my opinion.
Ignorant.
Idiot
Fuck him !
oh I know, my ass is sore from last night…
booo
Sure blame someone for your company’s failure
This kind of stuff makes me so angry it’s not right. Let people love who the fuck they want to love.
You know what? FUCK you dude. Being gay, or bisexual in my case, ISN’T a painful way to live. You know what’s painful douchebag?? When people like you spout and perpetuate their ignorance and hatred. GET OVER IT!!!!!! GAY IS A NATURAL THING!!! And since you;re a christian, take it up with God, s/he created ALL. yeah, that’s right, God created gay people AND God LOVES gay people just as much as the next heterosexual.
honestly, I found the love of my life via eharmony, but I am also straight. I am absolutely appalled at this statement and will no longer tell people to use this service.
I’m tired of the debate, too! So, lets make sure EVERYONE has the same rights already, cause this debate is BS.
hurt his business,, how? being welcome to MORE people would equal getting more money. what a douche rocket. ignorance like that is the only thing I find ‘painful’
He’s absolutely right….it is painful to be gay and afraid of coming out…..being gay isn’t the problem….being afraid of bigots is the problem!!! He has no clue what its like to live being gay….happier than I’ve ever been!!!
too bad !!!!!
Only hurts when i hear this kind of ignorance and hate
just because he never made any money from it…SMH!
The pain is from assholes the Neil Ckark Warren’s of this world. Condescending pieces of crap
Screw him.. his ignorance and greed..”It’s damaging his business”…
Yes it is so painful knowing that I like more than just one gender. I am in so much pain. Man, these people are so stupid.
The pain is with being with the wrong sex!
being a bigot moron damaged the company – not gay people
*derp derp* Poor little sad old man.
Guarantee that this story will HURT his business now!
I met my love on match.com!
We are a same sex couple and both had a good experience using match.com.
There is always another more progressive, more inclusive, less hate-filled company to use (no matter the business!)
Boycott the asshats!
Oh no he didn’t. I will not support anymore.i did not know that
i only agree halfway. as a christian I can’t agree with practicing homosexuality; I just can’t. But at the same…this dude is a tad bit harsh (even though in a philosophical standpoint i agree because being far from God can be quite painful)
well fuck that guy anyways.
@Alison: If God is love, then how is someone so FAR from God for loving someone? Also, your God makes Gay people.
Can we vote him off the planet? Every gay can contribute $1 and we can shoot him off into space … so he can live in his own little vacuum.
good i wish doctor do good zillionaire would go belly up, not due to same sex anything but more to the way he ‘harms’ so many singles.
omg,get over yourselves its normal and i am proof of it! don’t bash something you will never have an opened mind too!
and homosexuality is not a practice or letst call heterosexuality a practice as well
The only pain in being gay is caused my nutters like Mr. Warren.
Stupid is painful too ;)
The only thing that’s painful is the lack of money in his bank account.
Why would anyone go to someone who looks like him for dating advice? From his appearance and pronouncements, the man apparently has no game.
Another person who’s mind has stayed at the same place for the last 50 yrs. so sad that nyou have been brain washed and can’t get the cobwebs out.
boycottttt!!
He’s just showing his ignorance.
If he wanted Gay $ he should stop being a bigot and open a division of his company for that demographic – not malign it because Gay people aren’t interested in ‘dating’ the opposite sex. What a moron, and a greedy one.
Asshat!
His stupidity must be a painful way to live, too bad we can’t fix stupid!
Curious to know if Compatible Partners has the same founders as eHarmony. At least that is what I thought when I joined the Compatible Partners site before I met my wife. I only had that account for two days because it was a very costly site! But I am pretty sure they ha the same founders because eHarmony did not allow same sex relationship connections.
He is a moron.
If it’s painful he must be doing it wrong.
its not a christian person upset cuz violateing scriptures. its an uneducated person who heard stories bout a book called bible. and fyi scriptures aprove of homosexual love and marriage just read and find it with holy spirit
‘Tis “painful” because some people still think it’s ok to say whatever passes through their head without thinking that their words may hurt others.
Do we really care? If he’s unhappy, he looks old enough to retire and leave the business to a more enlightened generation. Or he could just go run a chain of car washes or something where he doesn’t have to deal (much) with marriage equality!
Wait a minute guys, it’s actually not easy to tell where he stands on the issue. It sounds like he really doesn’t have an opinion either way and is tired of being caught in the middle of the whole thing. He is right in that being gay is a painful way to live because of how others treat us. I feel for him that he had to fear for his life because of crazy Christians. We of all people know how that feels and I’m rather surprised at the amount of hate he’s getting when he hasn’t even said anything flammable against us.
To all the older hateful people in the world. The baby boom is over, you’re irrelevant. So die.
How does he know it’s a painful way to live? Is he Gay?!
Fuck him. Really, I don’t care what he thinks about homosexuality. Let him go off and be as unhappy as he wants, he doesn’t know anything about anything.
I SEE a Huge LAWSUIT HERE IN INDIANA
Fine, jackass, I won’t ever join your damn dating site.
Dumbass!
No, being the target of bigotry, intolerance and injustice is a painful way to live.
Oh the pain…the pain….
Fucking tosser!
Brian, we get beat up and crap all the time. It’s not hard to tell it’s painful for us to live. Just because they don’t experience it first hand doesn’t mean they don’t know it exists or have some idea on how bad it is. Hence, straight allies.
He’s doing it wrong if the pain is unwelcome, silly rabbit, lube is for everyone.
Why would any members of today’s rainbow ever even WANT to use a dating site that discriminated against them anyway?
This bigot is just pissed that he’s losing business.
Well FUCK him and FUCK his stupid pussy whipped dating website.
Gay means happy…not painful way to live. :)
Really?!
SMDH . RAISE YOUR PRICES AND INVITE YOUR COUNTRY CLUB FRIENDS TO JOIN. PROBLEM SOLVED. JS
…Am I the only one who got the sudden urge to punch this guy in the face?
Maybe if they could a website to meet other single homosexual people to form meaningful relationships? Do you have one of those, sir?
… H8′ER!!!
No! Your homophobia ruined your company!
It’s not so painful if you use lube Neil.
It’d be a lot less painful if guys like this would just be quiet & leave us alone.
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW! You assholes!
good thing i don’t use his shit company.
This is why I never used eharmony.
The company won’t even LET gays and lesbians join. There is no option. The choices are all het company states unequivocally in the terms that they believe only hers will be happy. Just turn these a-holes off and support gay and lesbian owned, operated and friendly companies. We will rise if we stick together and leave these dinosaurs in the dust.
What is with his grammar? His sentence went on forever.
How in the HELL does Clark Warren thinks he knows how gays live? I demand he explain himself! WHAT A DESPICABLE ANAL PORE
What an idiot. How about we do a first class job of figuring out why people can’t let us live our lives without assholes like this guy hating on us?
blah,blah,blah…..homosexuality is ‘a pleasing and honest way for people to live’.
“— we literally had to hire guards to protect our lives because the people were so hurt and angry with us, were Christian people, who feel that it’s a violation to scripture.” (Neil Warren quoted from the article)… Yeah, real good Christians, if you have to hire guards for protection from them.
Idiot
Fuck him
And maybe the name of his company should be eDisharmony.com!?!?!
Mr. Warren >We can hear you better when you come out of the closet!
From the person who introduced a website for GLBT community? I worked for eHarmony. It was the WORST COMPANY EVER to use and to work for
What a dumb arse
And how the fuck would he know it’s painful?
I am so sick of stupid people like this that are telling us what we supposedly “are” and how we “must” feel. These people are so sick that they feel they have to push their miserable lives on others to make them fell better about themselves in order to cure their own insecurity and inferiority complex.
This is the main reason I hate the “church”.
If he’s had to hire guards for his personnel to protect them from angry Christians, than he should ask for money to figure out the “Angry Christian” lifestyle. That is a pathetic and harmful way to live.
I can’t stand this guy and never could. He is extremely irritating on TV and I’m sick to death of commercials for eharmony.com. It is a homophobic site, and this guy is SO out of touch. The gay lifestyle has not damaged his business! HE has damaged his business by not allowing everyone who wants to find a partner to use the site. He is so pious and self-righteous. Get out of our living rooms, sir, you are staining our carpets!
shouldn’t those christians be more charitable and turn the other cheek about the whole thing?
I think homosexuality is perposterous and I’m tired of people telling me its not ok for me to say it. Its genetically oppsoite of the instructions given to us by nature and for the most part its just peopel who can’t keep a decent person of the opposite sex because they have so many issues of their own. For the one person who was truely born with the genetic defect of homosexuality theirs 300,000 just living the lifestyle to be adament about something.
Does he think they can come up with a vaccine or something?
it is painful to live because of ignorant people like him making it painful.
This guy needs to fuck off and die.
Wah, wah, cry me a river. Damn cult, anyway : )
EHarmony sucks for this reason alone. I tell any friend who’s seeking partnership through the internet not to use this site. What an asshole!
why because they preyed on the feelings of the lonely and made a fortune off it and finally people woke up and stopped using Unharmonious
DB!
What disgusts me is he’s saying that homosexuality is a disease that needs to be eradicated.
Go duck yourself asshole
FOAD!
Typical Republican Christian. Damages his own company and blames someone else.
Why did he have to hire armed guards to protect him from his own kind? Am I the only one who sees the irony in this?
you know whats painful, seeing your shitty commercials
John, glad you left. I didn’t realize the gay version of the site was forced. This guy is a tool!
Seriously? More “Christian” hate thy neighbor BS. David is right about it being ironic, but I think Mr Warren is given to hyperbole. Armed guards? Really? I think that God does not smile on this homophobic ugliness.
He is just jealous because he is all old and crusting and no one desires him anymore (only his money is what anyone would be after). Now he has to sit back and watch the millions of same sex couples being given their constitutional right to the pursuit of happiness… he can’t stand it… Misery loves company!
and they ‘lost’ money??? What a spleen….they had to hire guards to protect them??? From whom??? The radical violent xians who hate others???
Dawww. I feel bad for him, must feel so alone…
sometimes, if you’re the bottom. lol. please. he is just a hateful mess.
Not from my vantage point!!! I’m very happy, thank you
Stupidity is a painful way to live also.
If it is painful for him, he’s not doing it right.
@ Dan gladitz….you are entitled to your opinions regarding homosexuality. You and others like you are NOT entitled to discriminate against us simply because you feel like it. Your religious beliefs cannot trump someone else’s civil rights. That’s not how this country is supposed to work. I suggest you find a way to deal with it….within 10 years gay Americans will have all of the same rights you already enjoy.
when someone makes a point about complaining about someone else’s way of life, it’s usually because they envy it.
Being gay is no different than being str8. You have your preferences and I have mine. How mine jeopardize you are beyond my comprehension. Quite frankly I don’t even find the majority of the str8 men that attractive – mentally or physically. To say my life style jeopardizes you is to admit you are not all that secure with yours.
yeah it is painful having to live and tolerate bigots and “christians”
Ignore these people. They don’t deserve to be heard.
Ignorant fool.
This guys a dick why would any homo bother using the gay friendly site eharmony. Just find another dating site completely.
That is just stupid
If he thinks sodomy is a pain in the ass, he’s doing it wrong.
What really damaged this guy’s company is that they keep spamming 16 year olds with dating services. Not only does it damage his company, but also pressures society even more into being in a relationship. If you do/don’t want to be with someone, fine, go for it. Don’t let someone else say you can’t/shouldn’t/need to be with them.
Good God, he forgot the lube, didn’t he!!! <3
He doesn’t know what he’s talking about. Such an Ignorant Homophobe!!
Wow. Fuck this ignorant idiot.
Yes, Mr. Warren. Such a painful way for people to have to live. To have crotchety old pseudo-Christians like yourself say things like gays “have no purpose”, to live in a country where sending an “I love you” note to someone of the same gender can get you imprisoned for 3 YEARS…or KILLED, to get kicked out of an establishment that you have every right to patronize just for sharing a hug or kiss, to see EVERY F**KING commercial or advert cater to something you don’t identify with, is a VERY painful way to live. I can go on, but there’s not enough text space.
GROWL!
eBigotry
This guy is nothing but an old uneducated racist fool!!!
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=510882212296511&set=a.472338296150903.122313.472335639484502&type=1&relevant_count=1
I can discriminate against whatever I want Krenek, and I’m athiest, I have no preprogrammed beliefs. Biologically homosexuality is completely wrong. As for marriage issues, its actually really retarded for homosexual people to want to get married as the entire premise of marriage is the bonding of a man and a woman. The entire concept was mostly designed to settle thing srelated to the children the man and the woman would procreate, things such as last name and birth certificates and citizenship, things of that nature. Homosexuals are fighting for the legal right to have a piece of paper that doesn’t have anything to do with them. Bravo, while you’re at it why don’t you help vegetarians fight for meat-flavored tofu.
How do homophobes make their way to this particular page?? I don’t get it. Out of the millions of pages on Facebook, they somehow manage to end up here. Hmmm. Just thinking out loud.
i completly agree. must be pretty bored to make it to this page and tell the lgbt cummunity what HE thinks our lives our wrong. your life is wrong for being a hater. and coming on this page and saying this pathetic bullshit you say. shame on you!!!
For someone with no pre-programmed beliefs, you sure have a lot of fixed ideas and certainty about things that are much more nuanced and complex than you seem to understand, Dan Gladitz. You are an expert on theology, biology, sociology, law, and apparently everything else. Bravo to you.
what is this, christianmingle.com?
ass
Some dudes love dudes. Some chicks love chicks. Get over it man!!!
I was born gay and some people were just born assholes.
I’m from Poland. We’ve got huuge homophobia here. Our parliment just banned 2 project of legalizing same sex relationships. More and more people are fed up with that and think about escape. For me could be LA: http://outvoyager.com/las-vegas-3
We don’t need pinion or your pity. We extend you ours…..
I don’t need the piece of paper. I need the federal and state benefits that married status affords, benefits for which I am already being taxed I might add.
I’m tired of the debate, too, but as long as asshats keep lying, I’m going to keep calling them LIAR. I notice he doesn’t say how much $ he’s made off the lesbian-gay site…