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Lesbian couple condemned by cafe owner because they are gay

Saturday, January 12, 2013

NEW BERN, N.C. — A married lesbian couple in North Carolina is outraged and going public after receiving a letter from a cafe owner condemning them because they are gay.

Ariel and Shawnee McPhail said that after finishing their meal at The Stingray Café in New Bern, N.C., on December 4, the owner handed them a letter stating God’s opposition to homosexuality.

The hand written letter read, in part:

“God said in the last days that man and wom(a)n would be lover of self, more (than) the lover of God.

That man and woman would have unnatural (affection) for one another. Then, the coming of the Son of Man, who is Jesus. So please, look at your life. See how it hurt(s) everyone around you. And ask the Lord to open your eye(s) before it (is) to(o) late.

The Love of Christ

P.S. my daughter also was gay. It destroy(ed) her life and my grandson.”

Ed McGovern, the owner of the cafe, told WCTI-TV that he gave the couple that letter “out of love,” and that did something similar to another lesbian couple in the past.

McGovern said he wrote the letter because he did not approve of the McPhail’s “kissing” outside of his restaurant, something the McPhail’s deny.

“First of all, we didn’t kiss. We don’t kiss in public. We were holding hands,” said Shawnee McPhail. “Secondly, if I did kiss my wife in public, what married couple would you go to and say, ‘How dare you? You cannot hold hands and you cannot kiss in public therefore you deserve my judgement.’”

The couple said everyone has the right to his or her opinion, but that McGovern crossed the line.

“If we’re experiencing it, then other people are too and that’s not fair,” said Ariel McPhail.

Since WCTI-TV first reported the story earlier this week, The Stingray Cafe has come under fire by LGBT advocates, posting hundreds of negative reviews on the website Yelp!

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23 more reader comments:

  1. I can only hope he will kiss his business goodbye but I have my doubts since it is North Carolina where that gem called Amendment 1 passed -_-

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:17pm
  2. i hope the cafe goes out of business

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:19pm
  3. That is wrong! And sick! That jerk needs to mind his own damn business and leave people alone!!

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:21pm
  4. Riiiight. Because we should totally not condemn the murderers, the wife beaters, the parents who abandon and/or abuse their kids, the bullies, the animal abusers… But no, it makes more sense to condemn two people who love each other and want to live their lives peacefully and respect one another.

    That cafe is fucked up.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:25pm
  5. Maybe the cafe should be condemned.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:29pm
  6. New Bern, N.C. I think he did them a favor. Looks like you could catch something in there.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:30pm
  7. People just don’t get it. What bothers me is how often they quote the Bible. If only they would read the whole thing, and become true Christians.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:30pm
  8. Consider the state!

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:30pm
  9. I wish you hadn’t corrected his spelling and language in your transcription. Leave his ignorance for all to read.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:35pm
  10. What a creep!

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:37pm
  11. plz anyone help us destroy this page https://www.facebook.com/HeteroAwarenessMonth

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:38pm
  12. This is AWFUL

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:39pm
  13. People who love each other should be allowed to express themselves in any manner they please. Except of course sex in public, but holding hands and kissing please leave us alone for our choices.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:41pm
  14. Asshole

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 3:44pm
  15. Hate in the name of “God”. Never fails to surprise me.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 4:01pm
  16. Jerks!

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 4:10pm
  17. Ok this guy is obviously an idiot but it makes gays look bad to go haywire and give hime bad review when they never even eaten ther. He stuck his nasty ass oppimple in peoples face and its splatered all over the news. Point made, no need to wish his restaurant death and curse his life.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 4:10pm
  18. But I’ll bet the A-hole owner gladly took their money.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 4:27pm
  19. Now we know where not to spend our hard-earned money.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 4:51pm
  20. Do not go and spend your money there people.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 5:18pm
  21. This is sick.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 6:14pm
  22. This poses the QUESTION: Is it better to say NOTHING about who we are and fly silently and stealthily under THEIR RADAR, OR is it better to be OBVIOUSLY GAY and flaunt who we are? WE ALREADY KNOW we live in AMERICA: The Land of the INSANE. Therefore it is crucially important we AS A COMMUNITY also recognize the type of people who reside in certain communities or environments BEFORE WE STEP INTO THEM. YES….WE ARE OUT AND PROUD, but unfortunately many people OUT THERE are mentally unstable and insecure with a rapidly changing world. I implore EVERYONE to STAY AWAY from NEGATIVE and HOSTILE places, and don’t spend your money where YOU KNOW businesses and corporations are AGAINST YOU.

    Posted on Saturday, January 12, 2013 at 6:21pm
  23. Who would want to eat at this little shack?????

    Posted on Sunday, January 13, 2013 at 10:29am