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FRC’s Tony Perkins advises parents not to ‘condone and enable’ homosexuality

CHRIS JOHNSON | Washington Blade
Thursday, September 13, 2012

A prominent social conservative leader compared homosexuality to drug use on Wednesday while urging parents not to “condone and enable” a child being gay.

Tony Perkins, president of the anti-gay Family Research Council, made the remarks while speaking at the National Press Club luncheon after being asked if he would disown one of his children if they came out as gay.

Michael Key, Washington Blade

Family Research Council Tony Perkins speaks before a National Press Club luncheon on Sept. 12.

Perkins, the father of five children, replied that he wouldn’t “disown my children for anything,” but advised parents they should express disapproval if they’re children make such an announcement.

“And if we really love them, we’ll be willing to tell them the truth that the choices that they have made, continuing what they’re doing, are both destructive to them personally and society as a whole,” Perkins said. “And so while I would disagree with my child getting involved in that lifestyle, I would not in any way — nor would I ever encourage a parent — to disown a child because of something like that that occurs. Love them compassionately, pray for them, but don’t condone and enable that behavior, whatever it might be.”

Perkins said as a parent he has “a responsibility for the environment in which I raise my children,” suggesting that sexual orientation is determined by parenting — a notion disputed by major psychiatric groups. Later in his comments, Perkins compared homosexuality to drug use.

“I believe as a parent we have the ability to protect them from a lot of unfortunate experiences that have shaping influences upon their lives,” Perkins said. “That’s not to say that those whose children may have ended up in homosexuality were not good parents. We can’t guarantee that. We can do our very best job as a parent and still something may happen, whether they end up in drugs or whether they end up in some other lifestyle that they end up.”

At the beginning of his response, Perkins said similar inquiries has been posed to him previously on national TV as what he called a “gotcha” question. The inquiry on Wednesday came from National Press Club President Theresa Werner, who was reading questions submitted in advance by reporters and attendees at the event.

Michael Cole-Schwartz, an HRC spokesperson, responded by saying Perkins is spreading lies about LGBT people and that parents should provide “unconditional support” to children who come out.

“Tony Perkins continues to spread lies and misinformation and his comments are offensive to the millions of LGBT people and those who love and respect us,” Cole-Schwartz said. “LGBT young people need unconditional support, not leaders or parents who will compare their inherent identities to things like substance abuse. It’s time Tony Perkins disavows that junk science and learns what the experts have to say about sexual orientation and gender identity.”

In response to another question submitted by the Washington Blade, Perkins said he thinks the Republican presidential nominee Mitt Romney is getting better about talking about views of marriage and gay rights favorable to social conservatives. Perkins gave general praise to Romney, despite grumblings throughout his campaign from social conservatives who’ve said they suspect the candidate doesn’t share their views.

“I think Mitt Romney is doing a good job in becoming more comfortable in talking about the issues of faith, talking about the social issues of marriage, and life in particular,” Perkins said. “There is no question that we have theological when it comes to our religions, but we have a shared concern over where this country is headed today. And we have a shared value system that we believe can put American on the right way. I believe that Gov. Romney is doing a good job in reaching out and bringing in all concerns within the conservative movement, including those of social conservatives.”

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34 more reader comments:

  1. Shit, that’s the most sensible thing I’ve ever heard come out of the FRC, and it’s /still/ insane.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:47am
  2. D BAG!!!!!

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:47am
  3. Since being LGBT is hereditary apparently I condoned and enabled my kid’s bisexuality by giving birth. I am proud of my son. Tony Perkins can take a flying leap. Or the 4 letter word of your choice.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:47am
  4. Tony, if their kid is gay there is nothing you or their parents can do. Best to love them, accept them, and educate yourself.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:49am
  5. is it me or is homophbia just gone crazy atm?

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:50am
  6. I advise all humans not to condone and enable Tony Perkins and the fuktards at the FRC

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:51am
  7. Soooo….confuse your child even more so, possibly alienate them, or drive them into a life that is not theirs. Wow, you are too classy Perkins.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:52am
  8. The entire Republican party needs to take a class on tolerance.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:52am
  9. Idiot.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:52am
  10. I advise him not to condone and enable opening his own mouth.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:53am
  11. shame i dont have kids so could warn them of the danger of religeon

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:55am
  12. Anti LGBT ZELLOT Tony Perkins is not an America

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:56am
  13. If the American public could Imagine the Holidays with Never seeing your child…hhmmm…I have friends that havent seen their folks in 20 years…sad.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:57am
  14. Still looking for that “homosexual lifestyle” I am supposed to have…his life is probably more of a lifestyle than my boring life :)

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 10:00am
  15. i say dont condone and enable the wearing of a bad comb over

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 10:02am
  16. Laughing my freakin’ ass off….tell those that decide to breed, not to keep on breeding then, as well! The world is overpopulated.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 10:07am
  17. Tony Perkins needs to STFU before we as an LGBT community give him some help. Stupid ass republican.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 10:08am
  18. wow what an idiot

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 10:14am
  19. It takes two straight people to make one gay human, a valid point that most heterosexuals keep forgetting.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 10:47am
  20. Who gives him the right to tell other people to not condon the actions of people who live a different life style. I feel so sorry for the people who make it their mission in life to deny others their right to happiness. God doesn’t like people who judge others.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 10:49am
  21. Fuck Tony Perkins !! ..that asshole is a just another narrow mind bigot funded by the Insane Koch Brothers !!!

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 11:06am
  22. Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 11:08am
  23. Please don’t condone and enable Tony Perkins. Let him rot in his own slime.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 11:11am
  24. This man is a mental midget. And that’s an insult to little people everywhere!

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 11:16am
  25. Riiight. As if REAL parents are gonna listen to this whackjob.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 11:31am
  26. ughhhh

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 11:45am
  27. LOOOOOL right. Okay.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 12:11pm
  28. Even though the civil rights movement gave racial minorities recognition and some conciliation, there continues to be those who hate, and preach hate, into the 21st century. This over zealous, closeted and self loathing homosexual Tony Perkins will hate himself forever.You have to feel sorry for him on a personal level, but we must maintain our outrage for what he does on the political level.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 12:56pm
  29. hi my name is david i am also gay and single i am also looking for ltr who ever is single bttm male age 18-29 white or latinos males slim guys must be willing to relcoate ? hit me up or inbox me guys pls and thanks

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 1:31pm
  30. what a moron!

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 2:36pm
  31. He is not a prominent social conservative leader. He is a well-known hatemonger. Get your terminology straight!

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 2:45pm
  32. Yes mr perkins lets shame our children some more. Let them grow up hating themselves and hating the gays. Let them grow up and marry straight spouses and make them misriable and hate themselves. Lets try to make more ignorants bigots assholes. Thats makes perfect sense. Do these people hear themselves? Ya know if there was a god he’d be pretty pissed that your hating on his children. He would of made the gays just the same as straights!

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 4:32pm
  33. shot him please someone.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 5:39pm
  34. Yet they will use drugs on you if they think they will “cure” you. Face it. Tony. Your just a hater would will kill it any way you can.

    Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 8:21pm