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‘Matchmaker’ Patti Stanger issues apology, then reinforces more gay stereotypes

‘Matchmaker’ Patti Stanger issues apology, then reinforces more gay stereotypes

“Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger — who on Sunday made sweeping generalizations about gays and monogamy, Jewish men, and New York women — issued an apology on Monday for her remarks, but within hours taped an appearance for “The Joy Behar Show,” where she proceeded to reinforce more gay stereotypes.

Appearing Sunday on Bravo’s “Watch What Happens Live,” Stanger declared that gay men are not capable of monogamy, Jewish men are liars, and told a gay viewer she thought he was straight because he didn’t look “queen-y.”

Patti Stanger

Stanger’s comments set off a firestorm online, with critics calling for her firing, and a boycott of her Bravo show.

But on Monday afternoon, Stanger and the network issued these public apologies:

“I am so sorry. I did not mean to offend anyone with my comments last night on Watch What Happens Live.” – Stanger.

“Bravo regrets the comments expressed by Patti Stanger on Watch What Happens Live last night. Her comments are not representative of the network’s beliefs and opinions. We apologize for the offense it caused.” – Bravo

Stanger reiterated her apology on Twitter as well.

But in a taping Monday for “The Joy Behar Show,” scheduled to air tonight, Stanger — trying to clarify her previous anti-gay comments — only reinforced more stereotypes. Stanger said her comment about gays and monogamy wasn’t intended to imply “all” gay men, just gay men in Los Angeles.

“This is not the lesbian. They get involved, move in together. They’re quiet, they’re at peace.”

“But the gay man,” she continied, “they whip it out at eye lock! They get involved, and then find out later whether or not they want a serious relationship. And I hope they use the privilege in New York for gay marriage because they have it. A lot of gays aren’t getting married!”

Behar told her she “went wrong” by making such generalized statements.

Watch a clip from tonight’s broadcast:

Stanger said she was sorry “if GLAAD was offended,” and followed-up with a laundry list of her pro-gay credentials, “I have more gay friends than Carters has pills.” She also claimed that for five years, her show has “put gay dating on the map … There was no ‘Logo’ then,” referring to the LGBT cable network.

Note: Logo was launched in 2005, Stanger’s “Millionaire Matchmaker” premiered in 2008.

Stanger has not made any retractions specific to her comments that all that “Jewish men lie” and that New York women are “angry.”

The full interview with Stanger airs on “The Joy Behar Show” tonight at 10 p.m. ET on HLN.

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