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What would Jesus do if invited to a gay wedding?

Sunday, August 14, 2011

I’ve recently been invited to a couple of gay weddings. So — what with being Christian and all — I asked myself the famous, “What would Jesus do?” (Which I don’t too often ask myself, actually, since Jesus could, for instance, raise people from the dead and turn water into wine, whereas I can barely drag myself out of bed in the morning and/or turn water into coffee. Safe to say many of His options are none of mine.)

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Wondering what Jesus would do if he were invited to a gay wedding naturally enough led me to the New Testament.

And therein I found these quotes:

“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices — mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law — justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former. You blind guides! You strain out a gnat but swallow a camel.” (Matthew 23:23-24)

and:

“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the kingdom of heaven in men’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to.” (Matthew 23:13)

and:

“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when he becomes one, you make him twice as much a son of hell as you are.” (Matthew 23:15)

And last but hardly least:

“Love your neighbor as yourself,” [said Jesus]. “There is no commandment greater than these. (Mark 12:31)

When I next went looking for anywhere in the Bible where Jesus says anything at all about homosexuality, I learned that Jesus spent about as much time talking about gays and/or lesbians as I do talking about button collecting and/or sea horses: none. Of course, it’s entirely possible that Jesus did say many crucially informative things about homosexuality, but that when he did no one around him happened to have handy an ostrich feather, sappy stick, or whatever it was they used for pens back then. Which would make sense, actually. If you’ve spent any time at all reading the New Testament, you know that Jesus’ disciples weren’t exactly Johnnies-on-the-spot. They were just normal, everyday guys.

Which I think is kind of the whole point. Jesus most surely did love him some everyday people.

Throughout the New Testament, the only kind of people with whom Jesus consistently takes frightful exception are the very “teachers of the law and Pharisees” we see him dressing down in the passages above. One thing that often gets lost in our considerations of Jesus is the degree to which he is exactly the wrong person to piss off. And you don’t have to spend a lot of time in the New Testament before you understand that the only kind of people who seem to ever truly anger Jesus are those who put religious dogma above what he most clearly stood for, which was God’s love.

Around Jesus you can whine, lie, shift your loyalties, be late, be greedy, be too ambitious, be stupid, be a coward, be a hypochondriac, constantly complain, fall asleep at every wrong moment — you can do nothing right, and it won’t in the slightest way seem to offend him.

But you put dogma ahead of love? You transmogrify God’s law into a justification for denying God’s grace?

Then … yikes, man. Then you’ve got yourself a problem no one in this world wants.

I’m not sure how exactly we came to so often consider Jesus the soft and dreamy, namby-pamby type. (Not that there’s anything wrong with being namby-pamby! I have an uncle who’s namby-pamby!) But it’s hard to believe it came from the accounts of Jesus we have in the Gospels. That’s just not the guy on those pages.

Jesus is scary when he’s riled. And the only people who rile him are those who, in His name, set themselves up as sanctimonious judges of others.

I think I better go to the weddings of my gay friends. I’m almost scared not to. In some of his parables, Jesus wasn’t exactly fortune-cookie clear, but he didn’t even almost waffle about his “Love your neighbor as yourself.” He very explicitly declared that the “first and greatest commandment.”

If there’s any wiggle room there, I just don’t see it.

So I’ll attend my gay friends’ weddings, in the exact same spirit I’d expect them to attend a similar function of mine. And if it happens that in the course of either of their weddings or receptions I find myself wondering if I’m doing the right thing, I’ll be sure to remember the first miracle of Jesus’ recorded in the Bible. It’s when he turned water into wine.

At a wedding.

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89 more reader comments:

  1. I truly believe He would attend

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:05am
  2. jesus would dance the night away and give the gay couples his blessing- since he himself said to love one another and not judge others

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:06am
  3. He would bless the union, if it was a union founded on love.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:06am
  4. Jesus was a jew.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:06am
  5. He made me this way..and He loves me. He would be there. No doubt.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:08am
  6. I applaud the author of this little opinion piece. Amazing stuff.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:09am
  7. and turn haters into homos! :) A murracle!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:09am
  8. Joseph…and ur point is…????

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:09am
  9. He would come with a truck load of water think about

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:10am
  10. I’m not really all that religious.
    But, he’d probably be happy that his brothers/sisters are happy.
    Regardless of their sexual orientation <3 :)

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:11am
  11. I am guessing wine would be involved!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:11am
  12. It’d probably be his own wedding.:$

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:12am
  13. well said

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:13am
  14. Turn the water into wine and dance the night away!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:15am
  15. Make awesome wine:)

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:17am
  16. he wouldn’t go, which is why Christian homosexuals is an oxymoron

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:17am
  17. I think he would bless it make wine n wash da bride feet afta his resurection

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:18am
  18. Yea I agree on wine!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:19am
  19. He’d do the service and give his blessings !

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:20am
  20. Great question? Someday, if we follow the commandments we just might be able to ask in person. Til then his “followers” should stop hating and recognize the true importance of love. Just saying.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:21am
  21. …i whole heartedly support Gay Marriage btw.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:22am
  22. Well, he would do nothing as he is an amalgamation of various solar deities and didn’t actually exist…

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:22am
  23. I would like to add that as a Christian I like all Christians am entitled to speak for Jesus, so since you ask I must say that the Christ has commanded us to love. I believe he would 100% support any union based off of love. He would show up and probably give matching Birkenstocks as a gift…he likes his sandals…he told me so!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:23am
  24. he will be the first one to arrive and celebrate love betwwen to human being, celebrate union and love

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:28am
  25. And he would be there with bells on to bless the union!!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:29am
  26. Duh, Jesus would go to the wedding to see all the fabulously dressed people. And check out the awesome party afterwards.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:30pm
  27. He would be my best man<3

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:31pm
  28. @ John, my point is that christians need to get over the fact that Jesus was a jew not a christain and that the christian religion needs to stop worrying about what Jesus thinks, to be honest with you, I don’t think he really cares.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:32pm
  29. I don’t care. There are plenty of homosexuals who are Christians and plenty of denominations that openly accept homosexuals. I don’t believe in marriage, gay or straight.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:35pm
  30. although in the end the author determines it okay to go to a gay wedding, its sad to me that people need to look to religion to tell them what to think. form your own opinions based on your own morality. with that being said, this guy is miles ahead of other christians who would never even consider associating with someone who is homosexual. this reminds me of a quote i like which i think nicely sums up the hypocrisy of christianity

    “if the fetus you save is gay, will you still fight for its rights?”

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:35pm
  31. Do unto others as you would have done unto you.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:35pm
  32. @Russel: many of the haters already ARE homos.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:36pm
  33. This a redundant issue for me as I don’t follow religion but I’d like to think that anyone who was invited to their friends wedding would go along happily and celebrate their day with them – without judgement. Finding true love is as rare as rocking horse doo doo sometimes.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:40am
  34. @Joseph..I somewhat agree..but I think he does care

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:41pm
  35. I think our lord and saviour would be honered to be included, so many marriages fall apart anymore because god is not included into their marriage.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:43pm
  36. I am not a Christian, but I have studied the Bible and its original teachings. Thing is I think he did exists, though we would debate on his parentage. I would say he seemed to be a wise man who wasn’t afraid of a fight. The problem with Christeanity today is they think they are the only thing out there. That is the only good out there. The wrest of us are just hedanistic and evil.

    They literally rewrite the bible to say what they want it to mean.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:45am
  37. Im an atheist so cannot comment on the religious aspect. All I know is that I’d be happy to go to my straight friends weddings, have a drink – toast the happy couple and think to myself that even though the whole straight thing may not be my british cup of tea I wouldn’t turn my back on them on their special day.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:45pm
  38. Jesus was a Jew. Since our faith is founded on the teachings and life of Christ it doesn’t make sense for us to stop worrying about what Jesus would think. To Jamie Kincaid: you cannot limit who is or isn’t a Christian. When you start deciding who is worthy to be a Christian you start making judgements. Really none of us is worthy. Jesus made us all worthy through his sacrifice for us. Jew or gentile, gay or straight. I don’t believe God see us as gay or straight, black or white, brown eyes or blue eyes, male or female. God sees a person. I think that Jesus would go to any wedding that he was invited to.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:46pm
  39. I have noticed that while Corintheians (spelling?) and Leviticus will sound off against homosexuality and perceived sexual immorality in general, that Jesus never says anything themself. Yet those two are the quotes most often used by religious homophobes. This analysis should be posted on every Christian page on here. :)

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:47pm
  40. ^ I’ve even told fellow Christians what I just said before…I get the whole fingers-in-ears-and-”LALALA I CAN’T HEAR YOU!” answer. -.-

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:48pm
  41. Coolest thing I have EVER read. I like this more than my own novel lol

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 1:57pm
  42. Hey Jamie, shut up. If you don’t like LGBTQ rights, get off our page, you closeted hypocrite. You’re just mad because we’re proving you old coots wrong :)

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 2:25pm
  43. @Danielle it is on my page! :D

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 2:30pm
  44. DNFTT :)

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 2:34pm
  45. @Jaime you don’t even know what Jesus Christ was about if you say something so incredibly ignorant! Jesus was about love and taking care of one another. He never mentioned anything about homosexuality. Read “What the bible really has to say about homosexuality”. Educate yourself, don’t talk out of ignorance a prejudice.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 2:35pm
  46. we are after all God’s children.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 3:15pm
  47. Judgement is personal, therefor making it an opinion. How you express an opinion determines the effectiveness of your declaration.

    All religion speaks of kindness and positivity. A guide to life associated with the time in which it was created. People who follow religion and those who don’t should live life in peaceful manner. World peace will start when everyone can be peaceful.

    No person other then themselves can determine what’s right and wrong. It’s the collection of common that creates the law of the time.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 3:27pm
  48. Dance
    And bring plenty of wine

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 5:06pm
  49. he would hit on the best man

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 6:44pm
  50. Well a fictional character would do anything that their author wants them to do. What would the authors of the Jesus hoax would want him to do? Who knows? What I do know is that I’m flesh and blood and if you invite me to your marriage I’ll bring the wine!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 4:49pm
  51. @Jamie, there are many proofs that the Stockholm syndrome works with religions. Just think about all the African Americans who chose the oppressors’ religions…

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 4:51pm
  52. hopefully bring some decent liquour!!!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 5:05pm
  53. he would imagine there was no heaven

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 5:40pm
  54. wear his loin cloth…

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 6:46pm
  55. Bring an expensive gift, I would hope. Dude’s got money! :)

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 9:51pm
  56. he would change water into wine

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 9:53pm
  57. Hed go on a flaming rampage with fireballs on some poor village.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 9:53pm
  58. Being pagan i think that if Jesus showed up to my wedding I’d be scared shitless down on hands and knees yelling I BELIEVE I BELIEVE

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 9:54pm
  59. he would say hallelujah

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 9:55pm
  60. he would show the wedding his love. :D

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 9:58pm
  61. Interesting question for the GOP candidates. But where does separation of church and state come into play?

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 9:59pm
  62. Jesus is all loving, he’d go to the wedding, show nothing but love for the couple and give them his blessing!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:00pm
  63. jesus doesnt condemn homosexuality, if any of you want to know ill show you and explain to you about it. It is not a sin. message me

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:02pm
  64. I would like to think that He would be a lot more accepting and supportive than some of His followers today.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:03pm
  65. Turn water into Cristal Champagne!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:10pm
  66. He’d hook up with some guy and have his own gay wedding.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:11pm
  67. He’d call Michelle Bachmann and Sarah Palin wicked vipers and they’d disappear in a puff of fairy dust.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:16pm
  68. He would bring twelve men and they would set up supper and celebrate the LOVE !

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:16pm
  69. He would give us our blessings and make good miracles happen

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:19pm
  70. He’d say he loves us, He wouldn’t scold, he’d love <3

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:28pm
  71. If I were invited to a gay wedding it is not up to me to judge people- and I like to see happy couples- so yeah I would go to the wedding and enjoy it the fullest- dance at the reception!!! Sometimes we get so bogged down with tradition or what we THINK is right- that we miss the whole point of everything (strain at a gnat to swallow a camel!!! I do agree with Jesus when he says “Love your neighbor as yourself= this is the gretest of the commandments”!!!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 10:28pm
  72. He’d dance the hora!

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 11:06pm
  73. suicide : )

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 11:23pm
  74. I do have a problem with this article, actually a couple problems.

    1. The premise of the article is flawed. Jesus would never have been invited to a homosexual wedding because there would have nver been one in that culture. In fact, the Jews of that time were under the Levitical law that called for stoning homosexuals. While there may have been homosexual weddings in Rome, but I doubt it, Jesus was in Jerusalem.

    2. The first and greatest commandment is to love the Lord your God with all your heart and soul and mind and body. The second is like unto it, love your neighbor as yourself. Upon these hang all the laws of the prophets.

    Now, I believe that if Jesus lived today, He would likely attend a wedding of two homosexuals if He were invited. However, I am not so sure that it would be an endorsement of one side or the other in this debate…just like He went to a party with tax collectors and prostitutes…and was not endorsing their respective lifestyles. Jesus went where the people were, and I think He would likely do that in this world as well.

    Posted on Sunday, August 14, 2011 at 11:31pm
  75. Great comments Andy! I’m straight and it seems to me I was born this way. I’m also a Christian and that is a decision.

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 12:48am
  76. Interesting question.

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 1:16am
  77. he would marry the happy pair, of course :-)

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 3:29am
  78. Only God knows…

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 9:58am
  79. be compassionate and loving to all!

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 11:52am
  80. i dont know if any one that commented read the bible…but sadly in The Old Testament, he destroyed Sodom &&Gomorrah, he might not be to happy :(

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 4:01pm
  81. P.S. if u get maried…don’t invite him :3

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 4:01pm
  82. Turn more water into wine and celebrate with the happy couple;)

    Posted on Monday, August 15, 2011 at 2:52pm
  83. Jesus WAS a Jew.. the King of the Jews. I am not Christian.. so someone please correct me if I’m wrong.. but Jesus Christ caused a great divide with the Jews. Those who believed he was born as the promised Savior .. were the Jews who converted to Christianity. Those who didn’t believe he was born the promised Savior… stayed Jews. So what’s the difference what Jesus was. He was Jesus. Unless I am misunderstanding your post, Joseph Medrano?

    Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2011 at 6:09pm
  84. Why is it an oxymoron? I want to know where it says in the bible that being gay is wrong.

    Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2011 at 10:22pm
  85. Amen! I love God, I love Jesus, and I love women. This makes me a lesbian, and honestly, I wish everyone would stop hating on each other. Christianity is supposed to be about compassion and forgiveness. So, come on, guys, those of you who are Christians (gay or straight), let’s try to keep the love circulating. And those of you who are atheists (again, whatever your sexuality is), please respect our religion — I definitely respect people who are not religious. Thank you for writing this, John Shore!

    Posted on Thursday, August 18, 2011 at 8:12pm
  86. I’m not really a religious person, but AMEN

    Posted on Saturday, August 20, 2011 at 10:16am
  87. He would go. And he would tell them that God has judged homosexuality an abomination. And they will burn in hell if they don’t repent and get straight.

    Posted on Sunday, August 28, 2011 at 5:27pm
  88. Love your neighbor is about what Jesus defines as love then isn’t it?
    As an example of loves balance, while Jesus didn’t condemn the woman caught in adultry, He didn’t condone her sin either, He told her to go and sin no more. Love is patient, kind and doesn’t boast itself, according to 1 Corinthians 13, but is balanced in context with the it does not rejoice in wrongdoing but rejoices in the truth.
    Certainly condemnation is not loving, however to condone or approve of sinful behavoir is just as unloving.
    Since Jesus is God and therefore wrote the Bible by His Holy Spirit, he judges fornication, sexual immorality, as sin over 100 times. While he walked the earth in human flesh, He difined marraige as that between a man and a woman as God created it from the beginning. The Bible gives us the answers if we want to really read it and ask God for wisdom and to apply it to our lives for answers. He who the Son sets free is free indeed. Jesus who is Love, comesd to us full of both grace and truth, a great balance.

    Posted on Thursday, September 1, 2011 at 10:34am
  89. I love this! He would be there most definately

    Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2011 at 9:43am