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Why are we still haunted by ‘The Boys in the Band?’

Monday, June 27, 2011

When I was 15 years old, I couldn’t wait to attend a local community theater production of “The Boys in the Band.”

I was intrigued by the play’s dark and mysterious reputation, and had heard that it included a lot of homosexuality (funny how that word isn’t used much anymore). It sounded like exactly what this budding young queer needed: some lessons about the yellow brick road ahead.

I didn’t like what I saw.

The characters, a group of gay men celebrating a birthday, were mean and sad and angry with one another. And they were all presented like weird, exotic animals, bitching and crying for the lascivious thrill of a very shocked audience in Shreveport, Louisiana.

I left the show feeling terribly disenchanted, fearing my life was destined to be drunken and pathetic.

It was the theatrical opposite of an “It Gets Better” video.

In the insightful and appropriately melancholy new documentary “Making the Boys,” the remarkable journey of the groundbreaking play and movie adaptation is discussed by playwright Mart Crowley and a host of gay cultural voices, old and new.

When The Boys in the Band opened off-Broadway in 1968, homosexuality was still classified as a mental illness. The play’s behind-the-scenes peek at gay men in their natural habitat was fascinating to audiences and greeted with enthusiasm from the gay community.

Yes, they were maladjusted, self hating fags, but they were our maladjusted, self hating fags.

But in 1969, as the movie version was being filmed only blocks from the Stonewall bar, a riot occurred at the club in response to constant police harassment. The modern gay rights movement was born.

Seemingly overnight, New York gays stood up for themselves and demanded some respect — from others and, more importantly, themselves. By the time the film version of “The Boys in the Band” opened in 1970, the story and its sad characters felt like a politically incorrect relic.

We wanted nothing to do with these old, bitter friends anymore. They didn’t reflect our “pride.”

Opinions about the show vary wildly, as evidenced by the interviews in the documentary. Gay playwright Edward Albee (“Who’s Afraid of Virginia Wolfe?”) always hated the show and still does. The surviving actors (the theatrical cast all recreated their roles for the film) staunchly defend the humanity of their characters. And younger gays interviewed about the show have no idea what the hell we’re talking about.

“I don’t really know about any boys in the band,” states perplexed fashion star Christian Siriano. “Honey, I’ve got dresses to make!”

“The Boys in the Band” has become a litmus test for how you view our ability to love ourselves. And those boys continue to reverberate and reflect our attitudes and tribulations as gay men, and that includes the AIDS crisis.

Watching the film today, I’m struck with an odd compulsion. I see these characters laughing and bitching, and I want to reach through the screen and shake them and warn them, to tell them about something coming, something too awful to describe, of a plague they can’t possibly comprehend that is coming to kill them all.

Indeed, at one point in Making the Boys, we are shown photos of the actors, of the men who played these iconic characters we loved and then hated and then, finally, simply accepted. And listed under each of the actors’ names is the year he died of AIDS. 1984. 1985. 1988. On and on it goes, through what appears to be a majority of the cast.

The moment brings about such emotional confusion, of regret and interrupted affections. It’s like hearing of a death of a long lost friend with whom you had a troubled relationship.

Our boys continue to live on through the film, performing their roles on that screen exactly the same way, defiant in their stereotypes, no matter how many times we revisit the movie.

What has changed, for better and for worse, is us.


You know who would probably have had some choice words to say about this blog posting if he were still alive? Vito Russo, author of the milestone book on gays in film, The Celluloid Closet.

On the occasion of the 30th anniversary of the book’s publication, writer Mark Adnum provides a provocative re-examination of the book and the attitude of its author.

And to hear Adnum tell it, Russo was a hard-to-please bitch who happened to address the topic of gays in the movies at the right time (although others were there first, according to Adnum).

This, from Adnum’s piece: The Celluloid Closet is saturated with frustrated references to “tortured little gay boys,” “homosexual fools,” and “sad-eyed queens.” Russo couldn’t stand “screaming queens” or “doe-eyed, timid faggots,” yet oddly “self-hating gays” really rubbed him the wrong way also. Ouch. So, was Russo a gay activism icon, or just another bitter boy in the band?


HVTN 505, also known as the HIV vaccine clinical trial, continues to struggle to find study participants, and that’s a shame.

You know I never miss an opportunity to encourage HIV negative gay men and engage them in the HIV/AIDS arena, and this is the best possible way in which they can make a difference to public health. But… maybe they just aren’t sure what is involved.

Well, Kyle Bella outlines his experience as a trial participant in great detail in a recent Bilerico Project posting — from the criteria to the risks to his physical exam — and it’s great information for anyone who might be interested. And be sure to visit Hope Takes Action to browse the list of trial sites.


The ADAP Advocacy Association (aaa+) has a new petition that is easy to access and sign — and it adds your voice to all of us who are horrified about this national disgrace.

Most recently, Sir Elton John joined the chorus of advocates demanding that Gov. Rick Scott of Florida do something to alleviate the waiting list (there are more than 3500 patients in Florida alone who are waiting to participate in this program).

So… just click here to sign a petition at the Elton John AIDS Foundation, asking that ADAP get the funding it desperately needs.

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3 more reader comments:

  1. I love that film, just like I love Tennessee Williams plays, with all *those* maladjusted characters!

    Posted on Monday, June 27, 2011 at 11:22pm
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  3. The Boys in the Band shows gay men in a truthful light without regard to vanity. There have certainly been more popular movies that have shown gay life, but those films are very careful in showing their characters in a light that makes the viewer see them as champions or victims fighting their way through the storm, always concentrating on the demons they battle outside of themselves. The Boys in the Band, however, concentrates on inner demons. How many gay films can you point to where this internal struggle is shown? Almost always, we have to see a gay character dealing with coming out, political fights, gay bashing, unrequited love, or a character without his own color that he has to meet a drag queen to show him the meaning of life. The Boys in the Band pulls back the pink curtain and shows us what it’s like when we concentrate on what happens around us and never take a moment to take care of our emotional issues.

    Any gay man who did not live through the 70′s and enjoy that limited chance to experience the hedonism of having indiscriminate sex harbors a bit of jealousy. We wish we could experience that, even just a bit, without regard to any consequence. We see these characters that have this chance. We see that it brings them no more happiness than we have. They share with us the struggle to gain an identity and grow our self-esteem. The moral of the story becomes that in order to be happy, you must know and accept yourself from a deep place. Each of these characters are shown at different points along that road. We can all relate to that, and if you are not threatened by it, then you might find yourself relax and actually enjoy the very funny dialogue.

    The best part of the Boys in the Band is how it shows that no matter how miserable or mean they can be to each other, they share a deep friendship; the type of friendship that comes from understanding and loving the lightest and darkest sides of each other. That idea is a concept that all of us needs to get.

    Posted on Friday, July 1, 2011 at 12:35pm